"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Including Her Into my Social Circle

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So I went out to a Latin Club last Friday celebrating my bros return from the military. I invited some people I know from grad school, and one of the girls (who is married) I invited brought a Columbian friend. Her Columbian friend and I hit it off pretty good, and eventually we were grinding on the dance floor the whole night. When I left, I got her number. I really think she is into me and I know she is single.

However, I do want to hang out with her again but only socially. It's not like I really want to call her up and go on a date since I would rather spend my energy now in reaching my goals. She is really cool for me to keep in touch with. Is there something wrong in thinking like this? Or I may be overthinking this...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
 

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Warrior74 said:
How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
The answer I was looking for! Can't believe it was starring in front of my face...
 

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Warrior74 said:
How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
Do you remember the standard stategy ,"Isolate and escalate" ?
Well you best follow that advice BEFORE you include her into your circle. Unless you do, some other horndog in your circle is going do exactly that with her right in front of you.
 

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jophil28 said:
Do you remember the standard stategy ,"Isolate and escalate" ?
Well you best follow that advice BEFORE you include her into your circle. Unless you do, some other horndog in your circle is going do exactly that with her right in front of you.
Interesting point. I guess you're saying I should mess around with her first. Then this brings me to another question. How do I keep that tie but have her not expect things to go any further (relationship, ect.)? Would it be the type of activities we do, how often I contact her is important, ect.?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do I keep that tie but have her not expect things to go any further (relationship, ect.)? Would it be the type of activities we do, how often I contact her is important, ect.?
Lol. Usually guys come here to find out how to attract women. You haven't even f closed yet, and you're worried about how to keep her at bay. Talk about having the frame.
 

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zekko said:
Lol. Usually guys come here to find out how to attract women. You haven't even f closed yet, and you're worried about how to keep her at bay. Talk about having the frame.
I guess I'm looking too much further along. But I think I see where you're coming from. Maybe this is the type of AFC thinking I should avoid?
 
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