"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Including Her Into my Social Circle

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So I went out to a Latin Club last Friday celebrating my bros return from the military. I invited some people I know from grad school, and one of the girls (who is married) I invited brought a Columbian friend. Her Columbian friend and I hit it off pretty good, and eventually we were grinding on the dance floor the whole night. When I left, I got her number. I really think she is into me and I know she is single.

However, I do want to hang out with her again but only socially. It's not like I really want to call her up and go on a date since I would rather spend my energy now in reaching my goals. She is really cool for me to keep in touch with. Is there something wrong in thinking like this? Or I may be overthinking this...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Warrior74

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How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
 

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Warrior74 said:
How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
The answer I was looking for! Can't believe it was starring in front of my face...
 

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Warrior74 said:
How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
Do you remember the standard stategy ,"Isolate and escalate" ?
Well you best follow that advice BEFORE you include her into your circle. Unless you do, some other horndog in your circle is going do exactly that with her right in front of you.
 

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jophil28 said:
Do you remember the standard stategy ,"Isolate and escalate" ?
Well you best follow that advice BEFORE you include her into your circle. Unless you do, some other horndog in your circle is going do exactly that with her right in front of you.
Interesting point. I guess you're saying I should mess around with her first. Then this brings me to another question. How do I keep that tie but have her not expect things to go any further (relationship, ect.)? Would it be the type of activities we do, how often I contact her is important, ect.?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How do I keep that tie but have her not expect things to go any further (relationship, ect.)? Would it be the type of activities we do, how often I contact her is important, ect.?
Lol. Usually guys come here to find out how to attract women. You haven't even f closed yet, and you're worried about how to keep her at bay. Talk about having the frame.
 

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zekko said:
Lol. Usually guys come here to find out how to attract women. You haven't even f closed yet, and you're worried about how to keep her at bay. Talk about having the frame.
I guess I'm looking too much further along. But I think I see where you're coming from. Maybe this is the type of AFC thinking I should avoid?
 
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