"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
In need of making new friends
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
spukee
Don Juan
Team activities are likely to get you pretty close with some people even if you're socially inept. Look around for a local Ultimate Frisbee group, or something similar. Work is also a pretty good place to start, assuming of course that your workmates are people you'd want to spend more than a normal work day around.
Above all: Just be friendly.
squirrels
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I'm starting to realize it's best not to be shy...just talk. If they're weirded out by "strangers" talking to them, then it's their problem.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
spukee
Don Juan
Not my bag, but if you're into that then go for it. I'd really reccomend getting a job too, as money goes a long way in freeing you up for social situations - nothing sucks more than having to bail on your friends because you don't have enough for a couple of drinks.Originally posted by eltoro69
Well i was thinking of going to a chruch to attend free bible studys classes, There is alots of teens and older people.