"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
In need of making new friends
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
spukee
Don Juan
Team activities are likely to get you pretty close with some people even if you're socially inept. Look around for a local Ultimate Frisbee group, or something similar. Work is also a pretty good place to start, assuming of course that your workmates are people you'd want to spend more than a normal work day around.
Above all: Just be friendly.
squirrels
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I'm starting to realize it's best not to be shy...just talk. If they're weirded out by "strangers" talking to them, then it's their problem.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
spukee
Don Juan
Not my bag, but if you're into that then go for it. I'd really reccomend getting a job too, as money goes a long way in freeing you up for social situations - nothing sucks more than having to bail on your friends because you don't have enough for a couple of drinks.Originally posted by eltoro69
Well i was thinking of going to a chruch to attend free bible studys classes, There is alots of teens and older people.