Yo so I need a really dope good morning text to send to a chick. One that says I'm not trying to just be friends but at the same time not going overboard becuase I plan on ending the convo shortly after leaving her in mystery about me before our date this weekend. What can you guys come up with?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheException
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Forcing any sort of "good morning" text is a bad idea.
I cant say its a bad idea in general because I have done it myself......but it was never forced, and never with a "potential" plate. I usually reserve these type of "rapport texts" for LTRs. I would not send one if I were you in your situation.
I cant say its a bad idea in general because I have done it myself......but it was never forced, and never with a "potential" plate. I usually reserve these type of "rapport texts" for LTRs. I would not send one if I were you in your situation.
TheMonkeyKing
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Agreed with these lads.
The further along in the process I go, the more I just use electronic comms (even text) as logistical arrangement-making.
As I've (previously) said about not talking on the phone/facebooking/twittering/messenger, you are adding mystery by not being in constant contact like every other beta purse-holder. A 'good morning' text particularly seems a bit fruitless. Don't bother, seriously.
Face-face contact is the only contact that is really going to raise your profile. Full stop.
The further along in the process I go, the more I just use electronic comms (even text) as logistical arrangement-making.
As I've (previously) said about not talking on the phone/facebooking/twittering/messenger, you are adding mystery by not being in constant contact like every other beta purse-holder. A 'good morning' text particularly seems a bit fruitless. Don't bother, seriously.
Face-face contact is the only contact that is really going to raise your profile. Full stop.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Harry Wilmington
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You've already scheduled a date with this girl? Do yourself a favor, then, and do NOT send her a text. Don't even try contacting her or having communication with her again until the date. Contrary to popular belief, it's better to stop communication once you get the date than it is to try and continue talking with her leading up to the date. Let her spend the time you'd spend texting her thinking about you instead, and how great the date is going to be. As evidence has shown on these boards, sending a text prior to the agreed upon date can have one of the following results:
1. You send her a text, she doesn't respond. You start getting paranoid about what her lack of response means, and you now wonder if this means she even wants to go on the date anymore.
2. You send her a text, and she responds. You end up in an unplanned 2-hour texting conversation, during which you joke or say something that's taken the wrong way. She gets upset, and flakes on the date.
3. You send her a good morning text that sounds sappy or lame, and she shows it to her girlfriends. "This is the guy I'm going to meet up with this weekend," she says to them. "Ugh," says her hating girlfriends, "are you sure? His text to you was so lame." Now she starts having second thoughts about seeing you (I know it seems like a fake scenario, but I've seen this happen before)
Bottom line: once you get the date, there's no need to do things to help convince her that she shouldn't see you. So, again, I'd recommend NOT sending her anything. Now, if she hits you up for some reason it's okay to respond (though you don't want to get into a full-on convo if you can avoid it), but save as much of your convo with her for the date as possible. Good luck!
1. You send her a text, she doesn't respond. You start getting paranoid about what her lack of response means, and you now wonder if this means she even wants to go on the date anymore.
2. You send her a text, and she responds. You end up in an unplanned 2-hour texting conversation, during which you joke or say something that's taken the wrong way. She gets upset, and flakes on the date.
3. You send her a good morning text that sounds sappy or lame, and she shows it to her girlfriends. "This is the guy I'm going to meet up with this weekend," she says to them. "Ugh," says her hating girlfriends, "are you sure? His text to you was so lame." Now she starts having second thoughts about seeing you (I know it seems like a fake scenario, but I've seen this happen before)
Bottom line: once you get the date, there's no need to do things to help convince her that she shouldn't see you. So, again, I'd recommend NOT sending her anything. Now, if she hits you up for some reason it's okay to respond (though you don't want to get into a full-on convo if you can avoid it), but save as much of your convo with her for the date as possible. Good luck!