Yo so I need a really dope good morning text to send to a chick. One that says I'm not trying to just be friends but at the same time not going overboard becuase I plan on ending the convo shortly after leaving her in mystery about me before our date this weekend. What can you guys come up with?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
In need of a bomb ass text
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheException
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Forcing any sort of "good morning" text is a bad idea.
I cant say its a bad idea in general because I have done it myself......but it was never forced, and never with a "potential" plate. I usually reserve these type of "rapport texts" for LTRs. I would not send one if I were you in your situation.
I cant say its a bad idea in general because I have done it myself......but it was never forced, and never with a "potential" plate. I usually reserve these type of "rapport texts" for LTRs. I would not send one if I were you in your situation.
TheMonkeyKing
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Agreed with these lads.
The further along in the process I go, the more I just use electronic comms (even text) as logistical arrangement-making.
As I've (previously) said about not talking on the phone/facebooking/twittering/messenger, you are adding mystery by not being in constant contact like every other beta purse-holder. A 'good morning' text particularly seems a bit fruitless. Don't bother, seriously.
Face-face contact is the only contact that is really going to raise your profile. Full stop.
The further along in the process I go, the more I just use electronic comms (even text) as logistical arrangement-making.
As I've (previously) said about not talking on the phone/facebooking/twittering/messenger, you are adding mystery by not being in constant contact like every other beta purse-holder. A 'good morning' text particularly seems a bit fruitless. Don't bother, seriously.
Face-face contact is the only contact that is really going to raise your profile. Full stop.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Harry Wilmington
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You've already scheduled a date with this girl? Do yourself a favor, then, and do NOT send her a text. Don't even try contacting her or having communication with her again until the date. Contrary to popular belief, it's better to stop communication once you get the date than it is to try and continue talking with her leading up to the date. Let her spend the time you'd spend texting her thinking about you instead, and how great the date is going to be. As evidence has shown on these boards, sending a text prior to the agreed upon date can have one of the following results:
1. You send her a text, she doesn't respond. You start getting paranoid about what her lack of response means, and you now wonder if this means she even wants to go on the date anymore.
2. You send her a text, and she responds. You end up in an unplanned 2-hour texting conversation, during which you joke or say something that's taken the wrong way. She gets upset, and flakes on the date.
3. You send her a good morning text that sounds sappy or lame, and she shows it to her girlfriends. "This is the guy I'm going to meet up with this weekend," she says to them. "Ugh," says her hating girlfriends, "are you sure? His text to you was so lame." Now she starts having second thoughts about seeing you (I know it seems like a fake scenario, but I've seen this happen before)
Bottom line: once you get the date, there's no need to do things to help convince her that she shouldn't see you. So, again, I'd recommend NOT sending her anything. Now, if she hits you up for some reason it's okay to respond (though you don't want to get into a full-on convo if you can avoid it), but save as much of your convo with her for the date as possible. Good luck!
1. You send her a text, she doesn't respond. You start getting paranoid about what her lack of response means, and you now wonder if this means she even wants to go on the date anymore.
2. You send her a text, and she responds. You end up in an unplanned 2-hour texting conversation, during which you joke or say something that's taken the wrong way. She gets upset, and flakes on the date.
3. You send her a good morning text that sounds sappy or lame, and she shows it to her girlfriends. "This is the guy I'm going to meet up with this weekend," she says to them. "Ugh," says her hating girlfriends, "are you sure? His text to you was so lame." Now she starts having second thoughts about seeing you (I know it seems like a fake scenario, but I've seen this happen before)
Bottom line: once you get the date, there's no need to do things to help convince her that she shouldn't see you. So, again, I'd recommend NOT sending her anything. Now, if she hits you up for some reason it's okay to respond (though you don't want to get into a full-on convo if you can avoid it), but save as much of your convo with her for the date as possible. Good luck!