"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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In a little Dilema

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I dont post often.. but I kinda need an opinion on this.

So ive met a girl at Uni recently and gotten to know her fairly well and i guess you can call us friends.

Last week i felt that this relationship was leading somewhere when shee asked me to join her for a tutorial and.. afte thet tutorial she invited me to her 18th party.

Then on tuesday before our test we had probly the second actual lenghty conversation and it went SOOOOOOOOO well and we clicked.. However I found out that she is already in a relationship!!

Quite frankly.. ive never met a girl who is more intelligent, cultured and interesting.

But anyways...the fact that she was already seeing someone did not really bother me so much as im pretty much immune to this sorta situations as its happend countless times.

So OK my observations is that.. I dont think she really knows the full extent of how much I like her but she has a slight hunch that I do like her... as she told me that initially she couldnt figure out why I was so 'friendly and nice to her" of if i had a motive...

Now....im kinda in a position of.. Do i wanna keep her as a friend.. OR... Should I slowly turn on the charm and fight my way through and make her mine?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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who needs friends? like chris rock said. guys dont have girl friends. girl friends are just girls you havent banged yet. if you want it go after it...do you care if shes in a relationship...she could be testing you...seeing how interested you are...i would back off a lil bit
 

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oh nah she is in a relationship.. seen pictures.. but yeah.. her party is next week. 20-30 ish people..then its off to the clubs after that..

I know for a fact that if she wasnt in a relationship.. I would have had her already hands down!

So how do i send a subliminal message that im kinda after her?
 

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you dont...she already knows i promise...but if she doesnt...what will you do that will make her not be in a relationship anymore? and if she did leave the other dude, why would you trust her?
 

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I ahve a slight feeling he's not actually in the country.. and it might be long distance maybe.... As she spent a year in Italy..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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