"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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In a little Dilema

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I dont post often.. but I kinda need an opinion on this.

So ive met a girl at Uni recently and gotten to know her fairly well and i guess you can call us friends.

Last week i felt that this relationship was leading somewhere when shee asked me to join her for a tutorial and.. afte thet tutorial she invited me to her 18th party.

Then on tuesday before our test we had probly the second actual lenghty conversation and it went SOOOOOOOOO well and we clicked.. However I found out that she is already in a relationship!!

Quite frankly.. ive never met a girl who is more intelligent, cultured and interesting.

But anyways...the fact that she was already seeing someone did not really bother me so much as im pretty much immune to this sorta situations as its happend countless times.

So OK my observations is that.. I dont think she really knows the full extent of how much I like her but she has a slight hunch that I do like her... as she told me that initially she couldnt figure out why I was so 'friendly and nice to her" of if i had a motive...

Now....im kinda in a position of.. Do i wanna keep her as a friend.. OR... Should I slowly turn on the charm and fight my way through and make her mine?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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who needs friends? like chris rock said. guys dont have girl friends. girl friends are just girls you havent banged yet. if you want it go after it...do you care if shes in a relationship...she could be testing you...seeing how interested you are...i would back off a lil bit
 

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oh nah she is in a relationship.. seen pictures.. but yeah.. her party is next week. 20-30 ish people..then its off to the clubs after that..

I know for a fact that if she wasnt in a relationship.. I would have had her already hands down!

So how do i send a subliminal message that im kinda after her?
 

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you dont...she already knows i promise...but if she doesnt...what will you do that will make her not be in a relationship anymore? and if she did leave the other dude, why would you trust her?
 

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I ahve a slight feeling he's not actually in the country.. and it might be long distance maybe.... As she spent a year in Italy..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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