"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Improving yourself

Enigma2517

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Does improving yourself require you to take on at least a somewhat negative attitude? I mean think about it....you're not happy with the way you are now....thats why you're trying to make a change.

People workout because they think they're wimpy.

People try to get chicks because they think they are losers who can't.

Etc, etc.

Then again, I'm sure there are people who say "this is good but it could be better".

Personally, myself, I find myself to be more of the pessimistic type. I don't think this is all that bad because its what motivated me in the first to begin improving myself (and god knows I've changed sooo much). However, is it really a healthy attitude to maintain? Does pessimistic thinking create a glass ceiling/limit on how much you can improve yourself. Does it lead to real, solid, lasting improvement or just a quick fix?

Don't know why I started this....just a thought running through my head :p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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well you must focus on the positive, you find a problem, you do not dwell on it, just try and fix it but focus on your goal of fixing it not on the problem itself.
 

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It's funny if you break self improving down into two phases. One: you improve because you have to. You are sick and tire of the rut you are in, so you improve yourself. 2: you get to a certain level you desire, but you want to improve it, not out of neccesity, but out of wanting to do it.

As long as you are improving, it does not matter which phase the improvement was motivated by.
 

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i think people work out to feel better, i know i do. I always feel revitalized after a workout.
 

smooth666

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Originally posted by Enigma2517
Does improving yourself require you to take on at least a somewhat negative attitude? I mean think about it....you're not happy with the way you are now....thats why you're trying to make a change.

People workout because they think they're wimpy.

People try to get chicks because they think they are losers who can't.

Etc, etc.

Then again, I'm sure there are people who say "this is good but it could be better".

Personally, myself, I find myself to be more of the pessimistic type. I don't think this is all that bad because its what motivated me in the first to begin improving myself (and god knows I've changed sooo much). However, is it really a healthy attitude to maintain? Does pessimistic thinking create a glass ceiling/limit on how much you can improve yourself. Does it lead to real, solid, lasting improvement or just a quick fix?

Don't know why I started this....just a thought running through my head :p
First of all, being pessimistic is not attractive to women and other people. "Laugh, and the world laughs with you; weep, and you weep alone.

However, working on yourself is in my eyes not a "pessimistic" attitude. Maybe we have different ideas about tihs word.
Take care!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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