"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Improving yourself

Enigma2517

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Does improving yourself require you to take on at least a somewhat negative attitude? I mean think about it....you're not happy with the way you are now....thats why you're trying to make a change.

People workout because they think they're wimpy.

People try to get chicks because they think they are losers who can't.

Etc, etc.

Then again, I'm sure there are people who say "this is good but it could be better".

Personally, myself, I find myself to be more of the pessimistic type. I don't think this is all that bad because its what motivated me in the first to begin improving myself (and god knows I've changed sooo much). However, is it really a healthy attitude to maintain? Does pessimistic thinking create a glass ceiling/limit on how much you can improve yourself. Does it lead to real, solid, lasting improvement or just a quick fix?

Don't know why I started this....just a thought running through my head :p
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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well you must focus on the positive, you find a problem, you do not dwell on it, just try and fix it but focus on your goal of fixing it not on the problem itself.
 

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It's funny if you break self improving down into two phases. One: you improve because you have to. You are sick and tire of the rut you are in, so you improve yourself. 2: you get to a certain level you desire, but you want to improve it, not out of neccesity, but out of wanting to do it.

As long as you are improving, it does not matter which phase the improvement was motivated by.
 

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i think people work out to feel better, i know i do. I always feel revitalized after a workout.
 

smooth666

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Originally posted by Enigma2517
Does improving yourself require you to take on at least a somewhat negative attitude? I mean think about it....you're not happy with the way you are now....thats why you're trying to make a change.

People workout because they think they're wimpy.

People try to get chicks because they think they are losers who can't.

Etc, etc.

Then again, I'm sure there are people who say "this is good but it could be better".

Personally, myself, I find myself to be more of the pessimistic type. I don't think this is all that bad because its what motivated me in the first to begin improving myself (and god knows I've changed sooo much). However, is it really a healthy attitude to maintain? Does pessimistic thinking create a glass ceiling/limit on how much you can improve yourself. Does it lead to real, solid, lasting improvement or just a quick fix?

Don't know why I started this....just a thought running through my head :p
First of all, being pessimistic is not attractive to women and other people. "Laugh, and the world laughs with you; weep, and you weep alone.

However, working on yourself is in my eyes not a "pessimistic" attitude. Maybe we have different ideas about tihs word.
Take care!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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