"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Magnatolia

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Hey all,

I'm curious. Those of you that have gone from shy and bad with women to confident and good (inner game though), what did you actually do to overcome your fear and end up where you are now?

Just want to get some ideas on what to do to improve myself, especially when relating to women.

Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dont know if this helps. But with me it just poped into my head. "im not gonna be like this anymore". Just started to think that i dident care if things worked out with girls i hit on. And after some doing it came natural to think like that. Motivat your self. And dont think that much of what you are gonna do if you met a girl. keep calm :)
 

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Sansj said:
Dont know if this helps. But with me it just poped into my head. "im not gonna be like this anymore".
Yep, fed up with the old reality.
Just started to think that i dident care if things worked out with girls i hit on.
Y,Let go of the outcome.
And after some doing it came natural to think like that.
Practice & practice.

The fastest way is to take your emotions & beliefs. Analise & isolate them and destroy them one by one. There are many methods to destroy them. This combined with practice & practice will move you the most in the direction that you want.
 
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