"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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importance of 1st call after 1st date?

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drift king

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how important is the 1st call after the 1st date?

assuming your date went really well and she has high interest.. if your phone game isn't the strongest is it not better just to text the arrangements for 2nd date etc? why risk acting afc on the phone and lower her previous high interest level?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I find it more natural to just call if I want to set something up. You get to feel more of the conversation, her tone, her mood...etc, plus she also gets to feel yours which may or may not be a good thing. Plus the fact that I enjoy hearing a woman's voice :)

I also tend to get better response via a phone call compared to a text message.
I'm not very keen on text messaging in the first place.
 
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and if she doesn't pick up after you call.. do you leave a voicemail (saying what?)?
 
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I wouldn't do a voice mail either. Just contact her somehow if she doesn't initiate contact first. A simple "I had fun" will do. I'd say it's pretty important.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No Txt

:cool: No Texts They Are For The Shy And Suttle Types Or For A Quick Message But That Is Not One Of Them
 
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DonS is a voice of reason.

I should hire him to beat the AFC out of me.
 
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