Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Uh...youre quite mistaken.r0cky said:You've come to the wrong place bud. We only help out on issues related to getting girls. you may need professional help, medications, etc.
I suggest you seek another alternative besides this site.
I also agree that your quite mistaken. This site is the opposite, its about improving your overall self and learning to build confidence, self-esteem, and happiness from the inside. Then after you have reached that, then you work on getting women, and hopefully by that point with everything else in place it shouldn't be too hard.r0cky said:You've come to the wrong place bud. We only help out on issues related to getting girls. you may need professional help, medications, etc.
I suggest you seek another alternative besides this site.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Thank you. Your wise words struck true and have given me so much to think about.500_W00P said:I'll tell yout he end all be all advice that you'll need.
Just do it. You'll make a TON of mistakes. The only way to get good at getting girls is repitition and alot of failure, and the sooner you start the better.
I wanted to keep it short and sweet but let me touch on this because it a mistake I often witness and made myself..
Don't let trying to be too cool turn you into a douche bag. Cool people don't have to be mean, abusive or verbally rude, thats for insecure people. But also have a backbone, if she dosen't talk to you respectfully you DO NOT have to put up with it.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Love said:Please help me
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
If i've demonstrated otherwise to you on this forum, let me assure you when it comes to actually dealing with people off the keyboard, I'm a wreck and do not demonstrate any confidence whatsoever.SayWord? said:you sure you're uncofident?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.