You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Uh...youre quite mistaken.r0cky said:You've come to the wrong place bud. We only help out on issues related to getting girls. you may need professional help, medications, etc.
I suggest you seek another alternative besides this site.
I also agree that your quite mistaken. This site is the opposite, its about improving your overall self and learning to build confidence, self-esteem, and happiness from the inside. Then after you have reached that, then you work on getting women, and hopefully by that point with everything else in place it shouldn't be too hard.r0cky said:You've come to the wrong place bud. We only help out on issues related to getting girls. you may need professional help, medications, etc.
I suggest you seek another alternative besides this site.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Thank you. Your wise words struck true and have given me so much to think about.500_W00P said:I'll tell yout he end all be all advice that you'll need.
Just do it. You'll make a TON of mistakes. The only way to get good at getting girls is repitition and alot of failure, and the sooner you start the better.
I wanted to keep it short and sweet but let me touch on this because it a mistake I often witness and made myself..
Don't let trying to be too cool turn you into a douche bag. Cool people don't have to be mean, abusive or verbally rude, thats for insecure people. But also have a backbone, if she dosen't talk to you respectfully you DO NOT have to put up with it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Love said:Please help me
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If i've demonstrated otherwise to you on this forum, let me assure you when it comes to actually dealing with people off the keyboard, I'm a wreck and do not demonstrate any confidence whatsoever.SayWord? said:you sure you're uncofident?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.