Rhoto
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Love said:
Why?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm uncofident, shy, depressed, and have never even spoken to a girl
- Thread starter Love
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Why?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
broken dreams
Senior Don Juan
how old are you, Ive met a young guy who is 21 and ****s chicks in bathrooms.
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1 more thing I should just add from my own experience. If you feel frustrated, mad, sad, tired, exhausted, etc. LET IT OUT! Trying to keep cool during the situation is good and all, but don't hold all those bad feelings in. Like someone here already posted you will make A LOT of mistakes and YES you will feel like ****. Now, it's necessary you learn to keep your composure during the moment, but you need something to take out all that hell on. Go running, workout, have a hobby something that YOU yourself can enjoy and no one bothers. This will keep you from dropping into depression, giving up, angers and frustration. Remember that YOU are the important factor in this equation. Take care of yourself first above anyone else.
Thank you again for all the advice since my last post. I checked out those youtube videos and they really inspired me.
I've really noticed a change in the direction of my thoughts since I posted this topic, and I can honestly say I feel as if they're for the better.
I've really noticed a change in the direction of my thoughts since I posted this topic, and I can honestly say I feel as if they're for the better.
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Man, I know how you feel, but you've got to expand a bit. Tell us a bit more about your story, which can give us clues as to where you're coming from. All I can say is, good luck on the journey. There's a ton of good advice here.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Have you used online dating sites before. Or going to the bar. If someone evens pays you a little bit of attention than latch on. Don't discriminate on your first you can do that later, but that's a discussion for another thread!
500_W00P, you might like to check out this link. It will hopefully do a better job than I could at telling you what's worng with ur no doubt well intended advice.500_W00P said:
http://blog.psychologytoday.com/blo...nient-truth-sexual-monogamy-kills-male-libido
As a side note, interesting blog.
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Wrong. You most likely ran away from it and the next time ya'll meet, you're in the creep category. Worse than the friend zone.PigAdlemPimp said:
Love, not sure if your completely flaming or just slightly exaggerating...
I'm in a very similar position to you: unconfident, shy, depressed, been a while since I spoke to girls, and it's not uncommon for me to go weeks without talking to any girl (forget hot girls).
And I'm 21 years old. To make things worse, the rest of my life is pretty messed up too (doing poorly in school, no great career prospects, not even any close male friends).
I've been lurking for sometime, and your post finally snapped me out. I finally registered, and realized that a more active role may help us improve. There is great advice here and elsewhere, I just haven't been pushing myself at all.
I must have read hundreds of posts, tips, and FRs, but as long as I go back to jerking off/playing video games, the best advice is meaningless.
I'm in a very similar position to you: unconfident, shy, depressed, been a while since I spoke to girls, and it's not uncommon for me to go weeks without talking to any girl (forget hot girls).
And I'm 21 years old. To make things worse, the rest of my life is pretty messed up too (doing poorly in school, no great career prospects, not even any close male friends).
I've been lurking for sometime, and your post finally snapped me out. I finally registered, and realized that a more active role may help us improve. There is great advice here and elsewhere, I just haven't been pushing myself at all.
I must have read hundreds of posts, tips, and FRs, but as long as I go back to jerking off/playing video games, the best advice is meaningless.
I can't offer any help, but if you're being serious, I can at least assure you that I'm in there with you. Let's make the commitment right now, to getting better.Love said: