I'm tired of her low sex drive, can't ***...thinking about breaking up

[js77]

Dating my girlfriend for 2 years and she still can't ***, I try everything, I feel like a loser! I stopped talking about orgasm because I gave up. First month together I asked her if she had orgasm before, she said she had once with a guy in the past! I freaked out of jealousy!
I don't understand, she's horny, she feels pleasure, always wet, I'not a bad lover because I do a lot of foreplay, oral, masturbate her, use sex toys, etc but nothing! I fell like she's not attracted to me. Now our sex life is worst after she's taking Isotretinoin (e.g. Roaccutane) to treat acne, she's having no desire for sex at all.
I'm tired, thinking about breaking up!

 

[AttackFormation]

You come across as pathetic to me, so you will surely come across as pathetic to her too. Women don't feel desire for men they can't respect. You sound like a total chump.

Stop having performance-based sex, and stop measuring your ego by her reactions. She won't be able to relax because you are putting pressure on her to validate your ego, and she loses respect for you because of how pathetic you come across which kills her sex drive further. Sex is not a call center performance.

So before you break up you should stop being an AFC and see if that helps, only then can you consider breaking up, or you will just take the problem with you if you don't fix yourself first.

 

[RickTheToad]

Dating my girlfriend for 2 years and she still can't ***, I try everything, I feel like a loser! I stopped talking about orgasm because I gave up. First month together I asked her if she had orgasm before, she said she had once with a guy in the past! I freaked out of jealousy!
I don't understand, she's horny, she feels pleasure, always wet, I'not a bad lover because I do a lot of foreplay, oral, masturbate her, use sex toys, etc but nothing! I fell like she's not attracted to me. Now our sex life is worst after she's taking Isotretinoin (e.g. Roaccutane) to treat acne, she's having no desire for sex at all.
I'm tired, thinking about breaking up!

Sometimes it's you. Stop trying so hard and putting pressure on her to climax. Few options here.

1) Create a relaxed state.
2) Get some good massage oil and give her a body massage. That helps a lot.
3) Get a little bullet vibrator. Use it gently on the hood of her pus.
4) She will climax.

If she's on meds, then that could be an issue too.

 

[devilkingx2]

If she's not fvcking you, then you have an employee who doesn't work for the money you pay them, or you're working for a boss who gives you IOUs instead of a salary for your back breaking labor. In either case, you know what to do.

If she can't come no matter what you do or how hard you try and you're going above and beyond in effort, then that's her problem and tell her to solve it herself. If she makes it your problem, then find a new gf.

Most likely if a girl can't *** it's because she's either on meds that screw with her, a basket case of stress and mental issues or you have a small d!ck and no idea what a cl!toris is. (Or maybe She's a super h0e that's used to being penetrated in 3 holes at once or needs a vibrating heated foot long electric shock dildo)

Whereas low sex drive is either low attraction (read: you're beta bux) or aforementioned meds (crazy pills like anti-depressants)

 

[js77]

Sometimes it's you. Stop trying so hard and putting pressure on her to climax. Few options here.

1) Create a relaxed state.
2) Get some good massage oil and give her a body massage. That helps a lot.
3) Get a little bullet vibrator. Use it gently on the hood of her pus.
4) She will climax.

If she's on meds, then that could be an issue too.

If she's not fvcking you, then you have an employee who doesn't work for the money you pay them, or you're working for a boss who gives you IOUs instead of a salary for your back breaking labor. In either case, you know what to do.

If she can't come no matter what you do or how hard you try and you're going above and beyond in effort, then that's her problem and tell her to solve it herself. If she makes it your problem, then find a new gf.

Most likely if a girl can't *** it's because she's either on meds that screw with her, a basket case of stress and mental issues or you have a small d!ck and no idea what a cl!toris is. (Or maybe She's a super h0e that's used to being penetrated in 3 holes at once or needs a vibrating heated foot long electric shock dildo)

Whereas low sex drive is either low attraction (read: you're beta bux) or aforementioned meds (crazy pills like anti-depressants)

Year she's on birth control pill and taking Isotretinoin (e.g. Roaccutane) to treat acne

 

[RickTheToad]

Year she's on birth control pill and taking Isotretinoin (e.g. Roaccutane) to treat acne

Accutane can cause nervousness. If you want to still give it a go, try to create a relaxing mood and see if that helps. The items I listed above shouldn't cost more than 10 bucks all in. Your call. As for BC, depends on which brand. Some ladies respond differently. I was with one lady a few years ago couldn't climax to save her life. In fact, she said, she, her sister nor her mom ever climax. So, there you go. See if she would consider going on Nuvaring. Much less side effects and is generally well tolerated by the ladies who use it.

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[JohnChops]

Year she's on birth control pill and taking Isotretinoin (e.g. Roaccutane) to treat acne

While on acutane your girlfriend has to be on extra birth control with pregnancy tests every 3 months, as it is not a pretty picture if she gets pregnant on acutane.

While the birth control can cause sexual side effects, acutane makes you feel like garbage all around but I don't believe it directly effects sex drive. Did this problem start right after she got on her new medication or was it happening before?

 

[RickTheToad]

While on acutane your girlfriend has to be on extra birth control with pregnancy tests every 3 months, as it is not a pretty picture if she gets pregnant on acutane.

While the birth control can cause sexual side effects, acutane makes you feel like garbage all around but I don't believe it directly effects sex drive. Did this problem start right after she got on her new medication or was it happening before?

Yea, she needs to be on two forms of BC. That accutane is some tough sh it. Can she switch to spironolactone?

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[DelayedGratification]

I was with one lady a few years ago couldn't climax to save her life. In fact, she said, she, her sister nor her mom ever climax. So, there you go.

Yeah, my GF is basically unable to cvm without a vibrator. It took me awhile to adjust to that, I won't lie. But she's very matter-of-fact and comfortable with her sexuality, so over time I've taken to heart her reassurances that she "doesn't need to orgasm for it to be a good session". So sometimes we incorporate the vibe, other times we don't, and it's all ok.

I will say that it's a heady feeling when you can make a woman cvm repeatedly. But with some, it just doesn't happen, and it's not about you.

 

[jaymbrs]

This is an issue that will always be an issue. Guess what's going to happen after she does ***? She's going to want to again and you'll probably not be able to right off the bat. You and her will probably get frustrated. I've made my current gf *** multiple times in 1 setting, and guess what? The bar is now elevated to that. It's a never ending thing and it honestly shouldn't be the point of having sex.

 

[RickTheToad]

Yeah, my GF is basically unable to cvm without a vibrator. It took me awhile to adjust to that, I won't lie. But she's very matter-of-fact and comfortable with her sexuality, so over time I've taken to heart her reassurances that she "doesn't need to orgasm for it to be a good session". So sometimes we incorporate the vibe, other times we don't, and it's all ok.

I will say that it's a heady feeling when you can make a woman cvm repeatedly. But with some, it just doesn't happen, and it's not about you.

Yea, if I knew then what I know now, I think I could had made her climax. The bullet trick works with them all. I used to buy them in bulk from Adam & Eve. I tried a regular wand vibe on her, no luck. Since then, I've switch to the bullet, ladies c um each time. Another lady said she could only climax via oral. Well, I defeated that myth with no issues. Well, there is one issue, the c um all over the damn place. The one I am with now is a squirter. She squirts even without the bullet. Ehh..

This is an issue that will always be an issue. Guess what's going to happen after she does ***? She's going to want to again and you'll probably not be able to right off the bat. You and her will probably get frustrated. I've made my current gf *** multiple times in 1 setting, and guess what? The bar is now elevated to that. It's a never ending thing and it honestly shouldn't be the point of having sex.

Use this. You'll be fine and she'll be in heaven.

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[DelayedGratification]

Use this. You'll be fine and she'll be in heaven.

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Yup, very similar to her favorite vibrator that works like a charm every time. She also finds that a wand vibrator isn't as effective.

 

[RickTheToad]

Yup, very similar to her favorite vibrator that works like a charm every time. She also finds that a wand vibrator isn't as effective.

Yea, that's the one I tried years ago. Still urks me in a way, as I think ladies do not build a connection w/o a climax with the dude.

 

[lizardking82]

Like...where the hell do you find these women, man? A girl who is on acne treatment, BC and cannot climax?

I would say this, no matter what, if a girl desires you greatly all around, as a man, her /soul/ and heart would be the catalysts to her orgasms. Of course, coupled with good sex from your side and good fingers/tongue.

One or both of these factors are missing.

 

[JohnChops]

Yea, she needs to be on two forms of BC. That accutane is some tough sh it. Can she switch to spironolactone?

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So it depends on the type of acne she has. There are 3 types. Acutaine is reserved for refractory nodular acne. Which is basically those hard nodules with a red base around them. Spironolactone I believe is for inflammatory moderate acne.

Actuane does more than angroden receptor modulation it also decreases sebaceous gland production, making you sweat less

 

[sosousage]

start sleeping with other women and her sexdrive will increase

 

[andreihaha]

Sex should be fun and relaxing.
Stop thinking about it, get drunk if you must. Just stop thinking about it.
If you can't *** while fking a girl, is something wrong with her? No. Same thing here.
I doubt she's the one pressuring you for an orgasm. You are putting the pressure on yourself and her.

I used to care about women orgasms, but that was before I turned 20.
Now it's about pleasure, relaxation, a good workout. Not performance.
If I were you, I would not break up with her for this reason. And I wouldn't try to get her to orgasm. I would tease her.
She wants to fck? You tell her to give you a bl0wjob while you play with her boobs. You have to keep teasing and teasing and teasing. Until she can't take it anymore. Until she throws you on the bed and starts bouncing on your d1ck to completion.
If a woman doesn't know how to achieve an orgasm, you might try in vain.