Most of you guys may think I'm new but no, I'm not new. I'm one of those losers you guys talk about who hover the site but make no effort to apply what he has learned. Though, reading this information has brought me a long way. I'm can pretend to be confident but I'm not really. I can talk to any random girl on the street but I can't seem to ask for a phone number. I have had one actuall girlfriend my whole life I'm now 19 and in college. I have blown it with four girls already because I had paused and some other guy came in and took my ****. In fact that seems to be my only problem I mean once I get a relationship estbailish I can play the DJ part right. But it's getting that contact that I suck. It is all because I'm afriad and I'm tired of being afraid damn it. But it's hard, I can say that I'm tired of fear all damn week but when the moment comes to prove myself the fear takes me, but I never do anything. Any of you guys got any adivce on buidling confidence or just stop being ****ing afriad I'm sick of it. I have lost so many girls I've could of had by just being a *****
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I'm Tired of Being Afraid!!
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
PigAdlemPimp
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Why be affraid, hot babes are not as strong as lions, they are weaker than you and they love to be fvcked, be the prize, approach hot babes, be sexual, don't ask them for their phone numbers, be a real man, lead them into an alley way or take them home from your meeting location, then fvck them, how frightening can this be. 
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
I use something similar to Loompa...
I remind myself that approaching women is not in the category of "getting eaten by lions".. I'll also consider the best and worst that can happen. The worst that can happen is that she blows me out... Sounds horrible? Wait, break that down. That means possible embarrassment. Break that down. Embarrassment means what.. I'm afraid someone will tease or taunt me or otherwise disown me? That's really exaggerating things.. If you ask people about embarrassment, that's what it often ends to be. You may get a different result when you break this down. Point is, look at what's behind your fear, and usually it's not this big bad boogey man that your fear says it is. That woman can only say no.. I've NEVER had someone else make fun of it.
I remind myself that approaching women is not in the category of "getting eaten by lions".. I'll also consider the best and worst that can happen. The worst that can happen is that she blows me out... Sounds horrible? Wait, break that down. That means possible embarrassment. Break that down. Embarrassment means what.. I'm afraid someone will tease or taunt me or otherwise disown me? That's really exaggerating things.. If you ask people about embarrassment, that's what it often ends to be. You may get a different result when you break this down. Point is, look at what's behind your fear, and usually it's not this big bad boogey man that your fear says it is. That woman can only say no.. I've NEVER had someone else make fun of it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Zerotwoonenine
Senior Don Juan
just dont be scared, she dont even no u, 3 sec rule,u c a target, u go for it, u get the number, u go out.
U stop when u find a real girl.
U stop when u find a real girl.
thanks you all
Thanks you all I will apply this and won't lose another girl because of my hestation again. I swear it upon the blood that follows through my viens. I'm so pissed at myself yet motivated to not let this happen again. I've lost my last girl to this ****
Thanks you all I will apply this and won't lose another girl because of my hestation again. I swear it upon the blood that follows through my viens. I'm so pissed at myself yet motivated to not let this happen again. I've lost my last girl to this ****
just go for it man, she cant whoop u. it's not like she'll kill u if u get rejected. it may sting alittle, but u'll get over it soon enough, maybe even seconds after it happens. remember, for ever girl out there that says no, there r some that will say yes. find the yes's. the no's aint worth sh!t and aint for u anyway. u get confidence from experience.Tookie said:
rsxtreme
Don Juan
remember, the show must go on. so if you get rejected go on to another.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.