Most of you guys may think I'm new but no, I'm not new. I'm one of those losers you guys talk about who hover the site but make no effort to apply what he has learned. Though, reading this information has brought me a long way. I'm can pretend to be confident but I'm not really. I can talk to any random girl on the street but I can't seem to ask for a phone number. I have had one actuall girlfriend my whole life I'm now 19 and in college. I have blown it with four girls already because I had paused and some other guy came in and took my ****. In fact that seems to be my only problem I mean once I get a relationship estbailish I can play the DJ part right. But it's getting that contact that I suck. It is all because I'm afriad and I'm tired of being afraid damn it. But it's hard, I can say that I'm tired of fear all damn week but when the moment comes to prove myself the fear takes me, but I never do anything. Any of you guys got any adivce on buidling confidence or just stop being ****ing afriad I'm sick of it. I have lost so many girls I've could of had by just being a *****
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm Tired of Being Afraid!!
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
PigAdlemPimp
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Why be affraid, hot babes are not as strong as lions, they are weaker than you and they love to be fvcked, be the prize, approach hot babes, be sexual, don't ask them for their phone numbers, be a real man, lead them into an alley way or take them home from your meeting location, then fvck them, how frightening can this be. 
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
I use something similar to Loompa...
I remind myself that approaching women is not in the category of "getting eaten by lions".. I'll also consider the best and worst that can happen. The worst that can happen is that she blows me out... Sounds horrible? Wait, break that down. That means possible embarrassment. Break that down. Embarrassment means what.. I'm afraid someone will tease or taunt me or otherwise disown me? That's really exaggerating things.. If you ask people about embarrassment, that's what it often ends to be. You may get a different result when you break this down. Point is, look at what's behind your fear, and usually it's not this big bad boogey man that your fear says it is. That woman can only say no.. I've NEVER had someone else make fun of it.
I remind myself that approaching women is not in the category of "getting eaten by lions".. I'll also consider the best and worst that can happen. The worst that can happen is that she blows me out... Sounds horrible? Wait, break that down. That means possible embarrassment. Break that down. Embarrassment means what.. I'm afraid someone will tease or taunt me or otherwise disown me? That's really exaggerating things.. If you ask people about embarrassment, that's what it often ends to be. You may get a different result when you break this down. Point is, look at what's behind your fear, and usually it's not this big bad boogey man that your fear says it is. That woman can only say no.. I've NEVER had someone else make fun of it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Zerotwoonenine
Senior Don Juan
just dont be scared, she dont even no u, 3 sec rule,u c a target, u go for it, u get the number, u go out.
U stop when u find a real girl.
U stop when u find a real girl.
thanks you all
Thanks you all I will apply this and won't lose another girl because of my hestation again. I swear it upon the blood that follows through my viens. I'm so pissed at myself yet motivated to not let this happen again. I've lost my last girl to this ****
Thanks you all I will apply this and won't lose another girl because of my hestation again. I swear it upon the blood that follows through my viens. I'm so pissed at myself yet motivated to not let this happen again. I've lost my last girl to this ****
just go for it man, she cant whoop u. it's not like she'll kill u if u get rejected. it may sting alittle, but u'll get over it soon enough, maybe even seconds after it happens. remember, for ever girl out there that says no, there r some that will say yes. find the yes's. the no's aint worth sh!t and aint for u anyway. u get confidence from experience.Tookie said:
rsxtreme
Don Juan
remember, the show must go on. so if you get rejected go on to another.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.