Most of you guys may think I'm new but no, I'm not new. I'm one of those losers you guys talk about who hover the site but make no effort to apply what he has learned. Though, reading this information has brought me a long way. I'm can pretend to be confident but I'm not really. I can talk to any random girl on the street but I can't seem to ask for a phone number. I have had one actuall girlfriend my whole life I'm now 19 and in college. I have blown it with four girls already because I had paused and some other guy came in and took my ****. In fact that seems to be my only problem I mean once I get a relationship estbailish I can play the DJ part right. But it's getting that contact that I suck. It is all because I'm afriad and I'm tired of being afraid damn it. But it's hard, I can say that I'm tired of fear all damn week but when the moment comes to prove myself the fear takes me, but I never do anything. Any of you guys got any adivce on buidling confidence or just stop being ****ing afriad I'm sick of it. I have lost so many girls I've could of had by just being a *****
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm Tired of Being Afraid!!
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
PigAdlemPimp
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Why be affraid, hot babes are not as strong as lions, they are weaker than you and they love to be fvcked, be the prize, approach hot babes, be sexual, don't ask them for their phone numbers, be a real man, lead them into an alley way or take them home from your meeting location, then fvck them, how frightening can this be. 
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
I use something similar to Loompa...
I remind myself that approaching women is not in the category of "getting eaten by lions".. I'll also consider the best and worst that can happen. The worst that can happen is that she blows me out... Sounds horrible? Wait, break that down. That means possible embarrassment. Break that down. Embarrassment means what.. I'm afraid someone will tease or taunt me or otherwise disown me? That's really exaggerating things.. If you ask people about embarrassment, that's what it often ends to be. You may get a different result when you break this down. Point is, look at what's behind your fear, and usually it's not this big bad boogey man that your fear says it is. That woman can only say no.. I've NEVER had someone else make fun of it.
I remind myself that approaching women is not in the category of "getting eaten by lions".. I'll also consider the best and worst that can happen. The worst that can happen is that she blows me out... Sounds horrible? Wait, break that down. That means possible embarrassment. Break that down. Embarrassment means what.. I'm afraid someone will tease or taunt me or otherwise disown me? That's really exaggerating things.. If you ask people about embarrassment, that's what it often ends to be. You may get a different result when you break this down. Point is, look at what's behind your fear, and usually it's not this big bad boogey man that your fear says it is. That woman can only say no.. I've NEVER had someone else make fun of it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Zerotwoonenine
Senior Don Juan
just dont be scared, she dont even no u, 3 sec rule,u c a target, u go for it, u get the number, u go out.
U stop when u find a real girl.
U stop when u find a real girl.
thanks you all
Thanks you all I will apply this and won't lose another girl because of my hestation again. I swear it upon the blood that follows through my viens. I'm so pissed at myself yet motivated to not let this happen again. I've lost my last girl to this ****
Thanks you all I will apply this and won't lose another girl because of my hestation again. I swear it upon the blood that follows through my viens. I'm so pissed at myself yet motivated to not let this happen again. I've lost my last girl to this ****
just go for it man, she cant whoop u. it's not like she'll kill u if u get rejected. it may sting alittle, but u'll get over it soon enough, maybe even seconds after it happens. remember, for ever girl out there that says no, there r some that will say yes. find the yes's. the no's aint worth sh!t and aint for u anyway. u get confidence from experience.Tookie said:
rsxtreme
Don Juan
remember, the show must go on. so if you get rejected go on to another.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.