"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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im thinking of nexting this girl. should i really?

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ok... why do i wanna next this girl?

it's all perfect, it's all too perfect. she seems to like me alot, and i like her alot too. but there's one problem...

she's been a friend of mine since we were 8. that's 10 years ago.

wouldnt it be sad if we broke up? if we broke up, she'd probably hate me, or i'd probably hate her. (depending on the reason why we'd break up)

that would be really awful.

a couple more things, i think she is very much LTR material and is a really nice girl. but right now, i don't think im ready for an LTR at all.

obviously, i could play this girl out and use her, but yea, i cant do it because she's been my friend for a decade.. i really wouldnt wanna do that.

so what do i do with this chick?

she probably will not wait for until im ready.

if i next her, ill never know what could have been.

am i making the right move if i next her?

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by rgeere
If you arn't interested in her LJBF her and use her social proof.

If you are interested in her than start a relationship with her.
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#1 I am interested, i just dont think i'm ready. I mean, I'm just getting started... isnt it too early?

#2 But i cant yet, just like I said above, If i do, i feel like i'm going to cheat on her because i've sort of trained myself to flirt and approach other women.

in short, i guess, i just dont wanna hurt her. :(
 
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If working on your game is more important to you then i say next her.

Or you could realize that there are other ways to improve yourself then picking up as many girls as you can. Focus your energy on them instead.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well, you have to take risks. So if your biggest fear is that the friendship will be ruined, go for it anyways. It will always bother you otherwise.

If you're more worried about developing your game, why not just have an open relationship with her? You're limiting your options with this exclusive or nothing stuff. How do you know she even wants an exclusive LTR and not a short fling?
 
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Originally posted by AlwaysExcel
Well, you have to take risks. So if your biggest fear is that the friendship will be ruined, go for it anyways. It will always bother you otherwise.

If you're more worried about developing your game, why not just have an open relationship with her? You're limiting your options with this exclusive or nothing stuff. How do you know she even wants an exclusive LTR and not a short fling?
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Would a girl ive known for a decade want just a fling?
 
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Well that seems to be YOUR belief. Is it hers? She may say she believes this but does she really? When it comes to figuring out whether she's cool with a short fling, I'll admit that I'm not certain what's the best way to go about it. Maybe talk generally and casually (not about you and her) about how you live in the moment, love meeting people and enjoying them for what they are at that moment, and aren't trying to get tied down into a LTR. Or maybe not!

As far as the "sex ruins friendships" belief goes, sure it changes the relationship from just being friends but why does it have to ruin it? Why can't no strings-attached-friendly sex strengthen the friendship like giving a friend a back rub?

On the other hand, you're probably implying that sex would bring an attachment to each other and seeing that person with other lovers later on would bring jealousy and ruin the friendship. So if you don't think YOU could handle seeing her with other lovers, then it's probably not a good idea to have a short fling.

Since I've been in your position, I think it's more important to evaluate whether you're bringing the friendship obstacle up as an excuse not to act.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You worry far too much into the future. When you get to the point where she is saying 'I want to be exclusive' - then, start thinking about it. Until then, do what you want to do. From what I'm getting, I doubt that you want to 'play her' anyways. So just hang out with her, have fun with her (in all the ways that YOU want), then deal with the problems as they fall. Not before.
 
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