"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm the biggest piece of fail
- Thread starter Zippy
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
There are many types of goals my friend. Long term goals, short term goals and medium term goals. How many eighteen year old game developers are there? Not many. Does it mean it can't be done? Nope. But typically this is a long term goal. If you start out making mods for existing game, youre allready making proggress.Zippy said:My goals eh..? Becoming a Game Developer at 18 is extremely hard, but what the hell.
For me, being financially independent is a long term goal. It mingth take ten to fifteen years to do it. And loosing 50 lbs was a short term goal. That took me something over six months - just to put things in perspective.
For you, I wouldn't hang so much around sosuave. I would go deeper into developing yourself. http://www.stevepavlina.com/ is a good place to start.
LadiesMan2117
Don Juan
I had it pretty bad man. Introverted, a loner, short, skinny, no hobbies, etc. It all broke down when one of my closest friends ASKED her to winter formal and she said yes. She said no to me for Junior Prom. On top of that, my parents booked plane tickets to asia and I had to leave during winter break. I was going out of the country in one week. The girl I loved for 2-3 years just said yes to one of my pals on a DATE(something I dreamed about everyday/while Ill be out of the country). I literally wanted to kill myself. I quit Cross Country(my only outlet from my depression at that point). Attempted suicides in my car. I never talked out to anyone. Kept everything inside. I DIED inside.
I'm telling you man. You GOT to get out of the mindset. What helped me out of it? Going to college. A fresh new start. I can start all over again!!! The next thing that helped me out was my outlet. I went to the Gym like mad. After running into this site, my life really got better. Sure Im still a virgin, but I had one f-close, and two gfs since then. You can do it man.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Be proud of yourself.