"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm starting to experiment with girls, but where should I do it at?

opentoadvice

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whats up yall? I'm starting to talk with girls, figuring what works, what doesn't, etc. I've generally started doing this stuff at my job. I really want to start taking stuff to the next step, but generally I fumble the ball. So I'm wondering what would be some other great places to interact with girls at, mainly because if I mess up with a girl a work, I might seriously get a bad reputation. So what are some other places I can interact with girls at (for beginners, obviously I want to take it slow, slowly climbing the mountain; I obviously don't have experience, or balls for that matter, to talk with a girl out of the blue).
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Raziel Kayne

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Originally posted by opentoadvice
whats up yall? I'm starting to talk with girls, figuring what works, what doesn't, etc. I've generally started doing this stuff at my job. I really want to start taking stuff to the next step, but generally I fumble the ball. So I'm wondering what would be some other great places to interact with girls at, mainly because if I mess up with a girl a work, I might seriously get a bad reputation. So what are some other places I can interact with girls at (for beginners, obviously I want to take it slow, slowly climbing the mountain; I obviously don't have experience, or balls for that matter, to talk with a girl out of the blue).
How about starting a conversation with a girl in the supermarket?
 

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Re: Re: I'm starting to experiment with girls, but where should I do it at?

Originally posted by Raziel Kayne
How about starting a conversation with a girl in the supermarket?
What he said. Like Wal-Mart or Fool Lion, etc...
 

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i'm around the same level as you are. i have a whole plan where one day i'll go out to a mall (i think malls would be the best, but whatever you're comfortable with) and i bring a couple notes with me, and i spend the ENTIRE day at that mall and just practice approaches. practicing different techniques, differenet openers, and overall just getting over my fear of rejection. i also decided to hit up a mall which is maybe about 30 minutes away (nothing local), so that your belief system doesn't screw with you more than it should have to.

i think malls will have the most population of girls, however, a lot of them are in groups there. supermarkets and all else mentioned above are good, but there's not that many of them.

if you're old enough to go to clubs/bars, go there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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