"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm starting to experiment with girls, but where should I do it at?

opentoadvice

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whats up yall? I'm starting to talk with girls, figuring what works, what doesn't, etc. I've generally started doing this stuff at my job. I really want to start taking stuff to the next step, but generally I fumble the ball. So I'm wondering what would be some other great places to interact with girls at, mainly because if I mess up with a girl a work, I might seriously get a bad reputation. So what are some other places I can interact with girls at (for beginners, obviously I want to take it slow, slowly climbing the mountain; I obviously don't have experience, or balls for that matter, to talk with a girl out of the blue).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Raziel Kayne

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Originally posted by opentoadvice
whats up yall? I'm starting to talk with girls, figuring what works, what doesn't, etc. I've generally started doing this stuff at my job. I really want to start taking stuff to the next step, but generally I fumble the ball. So I'm wondering what would be some other great places to interact with girls at, mainly because if I mess up with a girl a work, I might seriously get a bad reputation. So what are some other places I can interact with girls at (for beginners, obviously I want to take it slow, slowly climbing the mountain; I obviously don't have experience, or balls for that matter, to talk with a girl out of the blue).
How about starting a conversation with a girl in the supermarket?
 

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Re: Re: I'm starting to experiment with girls, but where should I do it at?

Originally posted by Raziel Kayne
How about starting a conversation with a girl in the supermarket?
What he said. Like Wal-Mart or Fool Lion, etc...
 

Tempest

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i'm around the same level as you are. i have a whole plan where one day i'll go out to a mall (i think malls would be the best, but whatever you're comfortable with) and i bring a couple notes with me, and i spend the ENTIRE day at that mall and just practice approaches. practicing different techniques, differenet openers, and overall just getting over my fear of rejection. i also decided to hit up a mall which is maybe about 30 minutes away (nothing local), so that your belief system doesn't screw with you more than it should have to.

i think malls will have the most population of girls, however, a lot of them are in groups there. supermarkets and all else mentioned above are good, but there's not that many of them.

if you're old enough to go to clubs/bars, go there.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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