"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm soon meeting the girl my friend is trying to hook up with - can u give advice?

The_Reaper

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It's my friends birthday at the start of May, and amongst a lot of people, the girl he is sort-of involved with will be there. He's going to introduce her to me. I'm thinking, you guys would be able to give good advice on what approach to take - should I tell good stories about my friend, make him out to look good, that kind of thing?

Instinctually, I just want to go completely CF on her and have fun with her - but I suppose my buddy could do with some help here.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WC2

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I understand you want to help out your friend and everything, but how about you help yourself out first. If you're asking us how you can help your friend out with women, I can only assume that you're stuck in the mud as well.

Instead of wasting your time trying to "solidify" your friend's position with this girl, practice with some harmless flirting. See what she laughs at and what she sees as awkward. I make it my priority to flirt harmlessly with all my friends' girlfriends. It's free practice, and you're sure to get a real response.

Talking your friend up is not only a waste of her time, but your time. Good luck.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TruthHurts

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Wrong!!!

Dannyrt34 said:
dude, shes ur friend's girl, just talk to her as if she was also ur friend.
treat her like you would any girl.. i.e. if you like her physically, dont be an AFC, put on the moves.. try to fck her the first night.... even if you don't trust me she will be back ;)

rules are the same across the table... Dont be an AFC...
 

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Buck Rogers said:
Look, why do you care?
yea really. she's your friend's girl. so you shoudlnt need to worry about impressing her and all tha junk. just be yourself and talk to her like you would any other person you're meeting.
 

Vypros

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TruthHurts said:
treat her like you would any girl.. i.e. if you like her physically, dont be an AFC, put on the moves.. try to fck her the first night.... even if you don't trust me she will be back ;)

rules are the same across the table... Dont be an AFC...
Wow...just...wow.

Some of you are so far beyond hopeless that it's actually saddening.

If you can't even respect your FRIENDS, how the hell do you EVER expect to get anywhere with women?

WC2 said:
I make it my priority to flirt harmlessly with all my friends' girlfriends.
Oh, you're that guy.
 
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