"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm soon meeting the girl my friend is trying to hook up with - can u give advice?

The_Reaper

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It's my friends birthday at the start of May, and amongst a lot of people, the girl he is sort-of involved with will be there. He's going to introduce her to me. I'm thinking, you guys would be able to give good advice on what approach to take - should I tell good stories about my friend, make him out to look good, that kind of thing?

Instinctually, I just want to go completely CF on her and have fun with her - but I suppose my buddy could do with some help here.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WC2

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I understand you want to help out your friend and everything, but how about you help yourself out first. If you're asking us how you can help your friend out with women, I can only assume that you're stuck in the mud as well.

Instead of wasting your time trying to "solidify" your friend's position with this girl, practice with some harmless flirting. See what she laughs at and what she sees as awkward. I make it my priority to flirt harmlessly with all my friends' girlfriends. It's free practice, and you're sure to get a real response.

Talking your friend up is not only a waste of her time, but your time. Good luck.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wrong!!!

Dannyrt34 said:
dude, shes ur friend's girl, just talk to her as if she was also ur friend.
treat her like you would any girl.. i.e. if you like her physically, dont be an AFC, put on the moves.. try to fck her the first night.... even if you don't trust me she will be back ;)

rules are the same across the table... Dont be an AFC...
 

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Buck Rogers said:
Look, why do you care?
yea really. she's your friend's girl. so you shoudlnt need to worry about impressing her and all tha junk. just be yourself and talk to her like you would any other person you're meeting.
 

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TruthHurts said:
treat her like you would any girl.. i.e. if you like her physically, dont be an AFC, put on the moves.. try to fck her the first night.... even if you don't trust me she will be back ;)

rules are the same across the table... Dont be an AFC...
Wow...just...wow.

Some of you are so far beyond hopeless that it's actually saddening.

If you can't even respect your FRIENDS, how the hell do you EVER expect to get anywhere with women?

WC2 said:
I make it my priority to flirt harmlessly with all my friends' girlfriends.
Oh, you're that guy.
 
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