"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

I'm Sleeping Too Much

jake-da-snake

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2018
Messages
11
Reaction score
5
I recently added in Starting Strength to my workout schedule.

My goal with lifting is to become stronger as well as aesthetically look bigger.

I do martial arts training three times a week and now I lift three times a week, Sunday is my only real rest day. I'm 19 yo and about 5'7", I have a sedentary job. I'm eating roughly 2500 calories a day of mostly protein, which is a massive jump of my previous diet of 1000 calories a day.

The issue I'm running into is that I'm sleeping up to 12 hours a night, which is super unusual for me. I go to bed around 11, wake up to my alarm at 7:30, fall back asleep and wake up at 12, groggy as heck.

Any thoughts on what might be the cause of this? Any solutions, or will this go away on its own after my body adjusts to the new diet and activity?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Xenom0rph

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 12, 2017
Messages
1,907
Reaction score
2,437
This sounds very typical of exhaustion. Lifting is physically draining while sedentary jobs are mentally draining which is why you're needing to sleep more since you're taxed both physically and mentally.

My recomendation:
1) scale back on the lifting and replace one lift day with a cardio day instead. Cardio is good for recovery.
2) if you need to sleep, then sleep. Sleep as much as needed to recover.
3) cold (or moderately cold) showers are helpful to snap your mind out of groggyness....
 

switch7

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 20, 2014
Messages
640
Reaction score
334
Location
uk
I recently added in Starting Strength to my workout schedule.

My goal with lifting is to become stronger as well as aesthetically look bigger.

I do martial arts training three times a week and now I lift three times a week, Sunday is my only real rest day. I'm 19 yo and about 5'7", I have a sedentary job. I'm eating roughly 2500 calories a day of mostly protein, which is a massive jump of my previous diet of 1000 calories a day.

The issue I'm running into is that I'm sleeping up to 12 hours a night, which is super unusual for me. I go to bed around 11, wake up to my alarm at 7:30, fall back asleep and wake up at 12, groggy as heck.

Any thoughts on what might be the cause of this? Any solutions, or will this go away on its own after my body adjusts to the new diet and activity?
Starting strength really takes it out of you once you start to up the plates. It probably ain’t gonna work too great with all that martial art training u are doing, at the moment your sleep is compensating for that
 

RickTheToad

Moderator
Joined
Apr 21, 2018
Messages
6,596
Reaction score
5,132
Location
Bridgeport, CT
I recently added in Starting Strength to my workout schedule.

My goal with lifting is to become stronger as well as aesthetically look bigger.

I do martial arts training three times a week and now I lift three times a week, Sunday is my only real rest day. I'm 19 yo and about 5'7", I have a sedentary job. I'm eating roughly 2500 calories a day of mostly protein, which is a massive jump of my previous diet of 1000 calories a day.

The issue I'm running into is that I'm sleeping up to 12 hours a night, which is super unusual for me. I go to bed around 11, wake up to my alarm at 7:30, fall back asleep and wake up at 12, groggy as heck.

Any thoughts on what might be the cause of this? Any solutions, or will this go away on its own after my body adjusts to the new diet and activity?
Chill dude. Your body needs to rest and repair. You can do cardio on the off days and weight train on the other days. At least one day to rest. The Rock suggests two sometimes.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

RickTheToad

Moderator
Joined
Apr 21, 2018
Messages
6,596
Reaction score
5,132
Location
Bridgeport, CT
Sleeping too much in my books is not too much exhaustion. Its running away from things in my life im not happy about.
If he's working out like he says, his body is just compensating and trying to repair. One cannot work their body to failure each time. The body is not the mind, it will give in to the stress and pressure from the fatigue and inflamation.
 

logicallefty

Moderator
Joined
Apr 26, 2006
Messages
6,000
Reaction score
5,151
Age
52
Location
Northeast Florida, USA
I’ve never understood all the bad talk about sleep. Why some people think sleep is so bad. My work week is a rock solid 65-70 hours every week. I’m tired AF on Friday nights and I often go to bed at 7pm and don’t get up till 10am. I don’t feel a damn bit guilty. If you gotta sleep, sleep!
 

mrgoodstuff

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 27, 2015
Messages
17,582
Reaction score
11,942
Location
DFW, TX
I’ve never understood all the bad talk about sleep. Why some people think sleep is so bad. My work week is a rock solid 65-70 hours every week. I’m tired AF on Friday nights and I often go to bed at 7pm and don’t get up till 10am. I don’t feel a damn bit guilty. If you gotta sleep, sleep!
On 60-80hrs working like a machine you do need to catch up on sleep hrs when your not working. Ive worked were you get 4hrs of sleep for 4 days a week. On the other days you may get 10-12 hrs of sleep to somewhat makeup for it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Top