Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm Sleeping Too Much

jake-da-snake

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I recently added in Starting Strength to my workout schedule.

My goal with lifting is to become stronger as well as aesthetically look bigger.

I do martial arts training three times a week and now I lift three times a week, Sunday is my only real rest day. I'm 19 yo and about 5'7", I have a sedentary job. I'm eating roughly 2500 calories a day of mostly protein, which is a massive jump of my previous diet of 1000 calories a day.

The issue I'm running into is that I'm sleeping up to 12 hours a night, which is super unusual for me. I go to bed around 11, wake up to my alarm at 7:30, fall back asleep and wake up at 12, groggy as heck.

Any thoughts on what might be the cause of this? Any solutions, or will this go away on its own after my body adjusts to the new diet and activity?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Xenom0rph

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This sounds very typical of exhaustion. Lifting is physically draining while sedentary jobs are mentally draining which is why you're needing to sleep more since you're taxed both physically and mentally.

My recomendation:
1) scale back on the lifting and replace one lift day with a cardio day instead. Cardio is good for recovery.
2) if you need to sleep, then sleep. Sleep as much as needed to recover.
3) cold (or moderately cold) showers are helpful to snap your mind out of groggyness....
 

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I recently added in Starting Strength to my workout schedule.

My goal with lifting is to become stronger as well as aesthetically look bigger.

I do martial arts training three times a week and now I lift three times a week, Sunday is my only real rest day. I'm 19 yo and about 5'7", I have a sedentary job. I'm eating roughly 2500 calories a day of mostly protein, which is a massive jump of my previous diet of 1000 calories a day.

The issue I'm running into is that I'm sleeping up to 12 hours a night, which is super unusual for me. I go to bed around 11, wake up to my alarm at 7:30, fall back asleep and wake up at 12, groggy as heck.

Any thoughts on what might be the cause of this? Any solutions, or will this go away on its own after my body adjusts to the new diet and activity?
Starting strength really takes it out of you once you start to up the plates. It probably ain’t gonna work too great with all that martial art training u are doing, at the moment your sleep is compensating for that
 

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I recently added in Starting Strength to my workout schedule.

My goal with lifting is to become stronger as well as aesthetically look bigger.

I do martial arts training three times a week and now I lift three times a week, Sunday is my only real rest day. I'm 19 yo and about 5'7", I have a sedentary job. I'm eating roughly 2500 calories a day of mostly protein, which is a massive jump of my previous diet of 1000 calories a day.

The issue I'm running into is that I'm sleeping up to 12 hours a night, which is super unusual for me. I go to bed around 11, wake up to my alarm at 7:30, fall back asleep and wake up at 12, groggy as heck.

Any thoughts on what might be the cause of this? Any solutions, or will this go away on its own after my body adjusts to the new diet and activity?
Chill dude. Your body needs to rest and repair. You can do cardio on the off days and weight train on the other days. At least one day to rest. The Rock suggests two sometimes.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sleeping too much in my books is not too much exhaustion. Its running away from things in my life im not happy about.
If he's working out like he says, his body is just compensating and trying to repair. One cannot work their body to failure each time. The body is not the mind, it will give in to the stress and pressure from the fatigue and inflamation.
 

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I’ve never understood all the bad talk about sleep. Why some people think sleep is so bad. My work week is a rock solid 65-70 hours every week. I’m tired AF on Friday nights and I often go to bed at 7pm and don’t get up till 10am. I don’t feel a damn bit guilty. If you gotta sleep, sleep!
 

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I’ve never understood all the bad talk about sleep. Why some people think sleep is so bad. My work week is a rock solid 65-70 hours every week. I’m tired AF on Friday nights and I often go to bed at 7pm and don’t get up till 10am. I don’t feel a damn bit guilty. If you gotta sleep, sleep!
On 60-80hrs working like a machine you do need to catch up on sleep hrs when your not working. Ive worked were you get 4hrs of sleep for 4 days a week. On the other days you may get 10-12 hrs of sleep to somewhat makeup for it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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