"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm Pissed

Cerwin Vega

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So finally after 5 months I banged an hb8.5, sweet!
she's a cool chick so I wanted to keep contact - long story short we scheduled a 2nd meetup at my place, and all of the sudden texts me "I can't make it tommorow :(" to which I replied "cool, no worries. We'll catch up soon.."

But...It's not cool. I'm angry. I waited a whole week for this meetup. I cleaned and bleached my entire house, bought a fancy expensive lube (that's right) and marinated some chicken breast for tomorrow, I'm super pissed!
Let alone FINALLY getting some action after hundreds of rejections, dozens of flakes and disappointments.

Now when I vented and poured my emotions out I feel more logical.

I won't text or call her until next week. If she contacts me I don't respond, even if I have absolutely nothing to do at the moment.

Most of you will tell me I need to go spin more plates, not give a damn etc but it's just like telling a person who doesn't know how to swim "it's simple! just try not to drown".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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IBreatheSpears

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Not really, it's more like telling someone who doesn't know how to swim to move their arms and kick their legs. Sure, it's not detailed, but it is what you need to do.

In the meantime, I always suggest Stoic philosophy and meditation for curing poor emotional regulation.
 
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