"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm On Day 5!!

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ok i havent spoken to you lot about this at all, been looking at this forum for a while, havent posted much yet.

But theres this girl we went out for like 7 months and she completely messed me up, i mean i was such a mess it wasnt even funny.

She is such a attention seeker and all i could do was act afc all the time, well we finished in march but ever since then she has had a hold over me, i mean you all know the same the kinda girl that hangs up the phone knowing you will ring back with an "I'm sorry" line.

Well i finally took action and have completely ignored her for 5 days now, erased all her messages she sent, never answered my phone and kept myself busy, films, games, friends that kinda thing.

But i have this really bad feeling im gonna crack soon, i can feel myself wanting to call her.

Just need to know would i be doing the wrong thing in calling her, seeing how she sent me right over the edge and all!!

I dont want to go into how bad i was its not relavant at all!

Just need help thats all!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well its been a few months now.

And have to say i feel great about all this now!!!

Thanks for people advice on this site (not in this post but there was others)
 
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The only thing that cures oneitis is self discipline (not to call) and time...

Good job. Don't give in...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well im on year 7 now haha

Cant belive what an idiot I was for this girl back then (she got really fat as well!!)

Anyone know why I cant post with my old account?
 
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There are two "easy" ways to get over a breakup. 1) Meet a new girl; 2) Focus on a hobby (or take a new one up). If you don't have anything else important going on in your life it's really hard to let go.

For example, when my last LTR went sour, I took up cycling. Been doing it ever since and I spent last summer riding in the Alps instead of worrying about having dumped my now-ex.
 
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mikeyb said:
There are two "easy" ways to get over a breakup. 1) Meet a new girl; 2) Focus on a hobby (or take a new one up). If you don't have anything else important going on in your life it's really hard to let go.

For example, when my last LTR went sour, I took up cycling. Been doing it ever since and I spent last summer riding in the Alps instead of worrying about having dumped my now-ex.
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Man i know lol

I posted this 7 years ago

Just giving an update
 
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My bad didn't look at the date...or your last reply :eek:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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haha its ok

So anyway, im back and i've just come out of a LTR (5 years) and have almost completely forgotton everything I learnt all those years ago.

Time to read the bible and start all over again I guess
 
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