"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ok i havent spoken to you lot about this at all, been looking at this forum for a while, havent posted much yet.

But theres this girl we went out for like 7 months and she completely messed me up, i mean i was such a mess it wasnt even funny.

She is such a attention seeker and all i could do was act afc all the time, well we finished in march but ever since then she has had a hold over me, i mean you all know the same the kinda girl that hangs up the phone knowing you will ring back with an "I'm sorry" line.

Well i finally took action and have completely ignored her for 5 days now, erased all her messages she sent, never answered my phone and kept myself busy, films, games, friends that kinda thing.

But i have this really bad feeling im gonna crack soon, i can feel myself wanting to call her.

Just need to know would i be doing the wrong thing in calling her, seeing how she sent me right over the edge and all!!

I dont want to go into how bad i was its not relavant at all!

Just need help thats all!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well its been a few months now.

And have to say i feel great about all this now!!!

Thanks for people advice on this site (not in this post but there was others)
 
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The only thing that cures oneitis is self discipline (not to call) and time...

Good job. Don't give in...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well im on year 7 now haha

Cant belive what an idiot I was for this girl back then (she got really fat as well!!)

Anyone know why I cant post with my old account?
 
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There are two "easy" ways to get over a breakup. 1) Meet a new girl; 2) Focus on a hobby (or take a new one up). If you don't have anything else important going on in your life it's really hard to let go.

For example, when my last LTR went sour, I took up cycling. Been doing it ever since and I spent last summer riding in the Alps instead of worrying about having dumped my now-ex.
 
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mikeyb said:
There are two "easy" ways to get over a breakup. 1) Meet a new girl; 2) Focus on a hobby (or take a new one up). If you don't have anything else important going on in your life it's really hard to let go.

For example, when my last LTR went sour, I took up cycling. Been doing it ever since and I spent last summer riding in the Alps instead of worrying about having dumped my now-ex.
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Man i know lol

I posted this 7 years ago

Just giving an update
 
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My bad didn't look at the date...or your last reply :eek:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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haha its ok

So anyway, im back and i've just come out of a LTR (5 years) and have almost completely forgotton everything I learnt all those years ago.

Time to read the bible and start all over again I guess
 
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