"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm moving to Eastern Europe

MatureDJ

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I'm going to be an English instructor. I have my expenses in the USA down to a very low level (basically homeowner's insurance on very cheap house with no mortgage, and some cash to pay a guy to cut the grass every once in a while), and have a decent IRA that I could tap for a little here and there, although I hope to be earning enough to pay the bills while I am there. And just getting out of Chapter 7 bankruptcy has cleared away all of my other expenses. :cheer:

I've totally given up on the American dating scene. Maybe some men here have better luck with American women, but I haven't been able to scratch anything not obese, or with a brood of rugrats, etc., since about '98, whereas in my forays in Eastern Europe since then, I have had a great social life. And as my consulting business has failed in this cr@ppy economy, I see no reason to stick around working some stupid low paying job so I can get rejected by obese, b1tchy women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good luck! Let us know how it turns out. You should do a rooshv styled blog. rooshv.com
 

horaholic

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hopefully, I will be going to Europe for a year and a half or longer also!
 

Desert Fox

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uh I hope you're not going to europe for their awesome economy bro... cuz it ain't awesome at all there either.
 

MatureDJ

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Desert Fox said:
uh I hope you're not going to europe for their awesome economy bro... cuz it ain't awesome at all there either.
For me, it seems to be better. Like I said, I can get work at about $15/hr. The Wal-Mart only pays $8/hr. I am otherwise unemployable.

And oh yes, I'm not going there for the economy.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MatureDJ said:
I'm going to be an English instructor. I have my expenses in the USA down to a very low level (basically homeowner's insurance on very cheap house with no mortgage, and some cash to pay a guy to cut the grass every once in a while), and have a decent IRA that I could tap for a little here and there, although I hope to be earning enough to pay the bills while I am there.
If I could ever secure employment in Eastern Europe, which I have been thinking about, I would so do it, so good for you. But one thing to bear in mind, if you don't already know, is that you will be hit with double taxation—you will still pay income taxes to Uncle Sam unless you renounce your citizenship.
 

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MatureDJ, I wish you nothing but the best on your future adventures abroad.

I too, have thought about becoming an English instructor, and have done much research on this career choice.

I think, you have an exciting future ahead, and you will truly not regret one moment on this journey of yours.

All the best, and enjoy every moment of it. :up: BTW, the women are beautiful over there... Don't get too spoiled. :)
 

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Rogue said:
If I could ever secure employment in Eastern Europe, which I have been thinking about, I would so do it, so good for you. But one thing to bear in mind, if you don't already know, is that you will be hit with double taxation—you will still pay income taxes to Uncle Sam unless you renounce your citizenship.
If the income is reported. :D
 

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Like warrior said make a blog on this, will be really interesting to follow.
 

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Good luck. I'd be interested in reading a blog and maybe seeing some pictures of what the other side of the world has to offer.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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