"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm looking for a mentor in the San Diego area

AJTD

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I'm an older newbie DJ, late 40's. Interested in finding a mentor in my area that can help me out some. Advice, suggestions, maybe sarging once in awhile. Prefer around my age.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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thefonz

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The guys who are good enough to mentor won't just come out and help you for no reason. Usually you have to offer them something like beers, women, or some skillsets that you can teach. Give and take my friend.

My advice would be since you live in the San Diego area to find a bootcamp program. They are expensive but well worth it.
 
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