"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm leaving SoSuave

El Payaso

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Good luck in your future endeavors.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bokanovsky

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Take care, Atom Smasher. I enjoyed reading your posts here.
 
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Dude.... Good luck. Thank you for everything - you have no ideal how valuable you've been to myself and the community.
 
hockeyfreak79

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I've always enjoyed your thoughtful responses and great wisdom. Good luck in the 8th Dimension.
 
Fireballs

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You have given me some excellent advice in the past which has made me see this stuff in a different light.

All the best.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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good luck and you should come back in a month or year -- I've taken quite a few breaks from this site myself and its always good to come back and work on your don juan continuing education in whatever capacity that is.
 
ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Wow. Just had the random urge to go check this place for some reason and this is the first thing I see.....

Huh. Well I don't really know what to say aside from good luck on finishing your journey and such. If you have great wisdom to share after this bout, don't hold back, unless of course, WE are holding YOU back. You were one of the better posters IMO.

Well all that aside, I wish you luck. Don't forget to wish US luck to to complete OUR journey too.

Peace.
 
marmel75

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Good luck with your endeavors Atom....your sensibility to see both sides of an issue and keep an even keel in regards to situations will be sorely missed...I've learned a lot from you, even if by osmosis...

God speed, hope to see you back at some point...
 
Desdinova

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Atom Smasher said:
Hey Guys,

It's time for me to travel to other dimensions, and just don't feel right about leaving SS without saying goodbye.
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The trolls and bots shall rejoice on this day.

I already gave you my goodbye in the Mod forum. No need for me to cry again.

...ahhh what the hell... :cry:
 
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Great moderator and wise individual. I stepped away for several months and it was helpful, might do it again this summer as I've pretty much gotten out of this site what I need to.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zorg198

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Good luck brother, wishing you all the best.

Joe.
 
the_stig

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Atom,

Your wisdom is a true asset to this forum and will be deeply missed. Hope to see you again in the future. Until then, thanks for everything.
 
Die Hard

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I wish you much fortitude in your endeavors! You'll be missed!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Smasher, take your time away if you must, but I hope you're not gone long. This place desperately needs your wisdom and perspective.
 
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Atom Smasher said:
Hey Guys,

It's time for me to travel to other dimensions, and just don't feel right about leaving SS without saying goodbye.

The reason I'm leaving is that I want to get away from the subject matter for a while, to utilize what I've learned and retool myself personally and also retool my businesses.

One of businesses involves both art and science, and in the world of art it's important to step away completely from a piece in order to gain perspective. You come back to it with a new vision and with a certainty as to the next required steps.

So it is with life as art. In the places where you need to dig deep in order to create a life that is going to be one's masterpiece, at least for me it's necessary to step back from the core components to refresh one's perspective. A man develops an inner knowing when it's time.

Perhaps I'll be gone forever, perhaps for a week. I have no idea. But like I said, I didn't want to make a big deal of my leaving yet it just doesn't sit right with me to simply disappear without giving my friends here the respect of explaining my disappearance.

All the best,
Atom Smasher
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Take care Atom. Are you tired of all the red pill talk? Or are you getting married and realize all the negativity isn't good for one's mental health?
 
SamTheHobit

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Come back soon!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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