"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Atom Smasher

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Hey Guys,

It's time for me to travel to other dimensions, and just don't feel right about leaving SS without saying goodbye.

The reason I'm leaving is that I want to get away from the subject matter for a while, to utilize what I've learned and retool myself personally and also retool my businesses.

One of businesses involves both art and science, and in the world of art it's important to step away completely from a piece in order to gain perspective. You come back to it with a new vision and with a certainty as to the next required steps.

So it is with life as art. In the places where you need to dig deep in order to create a life that is going to be one's masterpiece, at least for me it's necessary to step back from the core components to refresh one's perspective. A man develops an inner knowing when it's time.

Perhaps I'll be gone forever, perhaps for a week. I have no idea. But like I said, I didn't want to make a big deal of my leaving yet it just doesn't sit right with me to simply disappear without giving my friends here the respect of explaining my disappearance.

All the best,
Atom Smasher
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SgtSplacker

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Here, take this and keep it with you wherever you go. If you ever need help hold it close to your heart and say my name thrice. "SgtSplacker" and I will be there for you... best wishes.
 

badboyjmm

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Thanks for your contributions to this forum
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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soulforge

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Good luck atom... got some great advice off you in the past... thanx man
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Nice one mate. All power to you. Stop by sometimes and say hi.

This is a favorite quotation of mine, which seems relevant. All the best.

'I am not yet so lost in lexicography, as to forget that words are the daughters of the Earth, and that things are the sons of heaven. Language is the only instrument of science, and words are but the signs of ideas: I wish, however, that the instruments might be less apt to decay and that signs might be permanent, like the things that they denote' - Samuel Johnson
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Chamber36

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good luck in your endeavours
 

Who Dares Win

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If you let us know how much is the internet bill in the retirement castle we will collect the cash for you to stay with us!

Ok seriously, sad that you leave Atom, you surely are one of the posters which provides quality to this board, good luck with your new plans and hope to see you back here.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GS750

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All the best brother. Stop in and say hi once in a while.
 

Eph

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I wasn't here when Pook left, but I'm glad I can say farewell to one of the greats of SS. I'd say good luck with everything, but I'm sure you'll find a way to make success happen.
 

JohnChops

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Atom Smasher said:
Hey Guys,

It's time for me to travel to other dimensions, and just don't feel right about leaving SS without saying goodbye.

The reason I'm leaving is that I want to get away from the subject matter for a while, to utilize what I've learned and retool myself personally and also retool my businesses.

One of businesses involves both art and science, and in the world of art it's important to step away completely from a piece in order to gain perspective. You come back to it with a new vision and with a certainty as to the next required steps.

So it is with life as art. In the places where you need to dig deep in order to create a life that is going to be one's masterpiece, at least for me it's necessary to step back from the core components to refresh one's perspective. A man develops an inner knowing when it's time.

Perhaps I'll be gone forever, perhaps for a week. I have no idea. But like I said, I didn't want to make a big deal of my leaving yet it just doesn't sit right with me to simply disappear without giving my friends here the respect of explaining my disappearance.

All the best,
Atom Smasher

Hey Uncle Atom, you will be missed. I also have to say thanks for helping me out when I first came here, you were a huge part in my success in life thus far. I wish you the best and hope all goes well!:yes:
 

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Well this sucks. The only legitimate right thinking and socially aware moderator SS actually has besides Rollo and Des who are both few and far between these days and you're leaving.

Goodluck mate, honestly hope you're back post-haste, even if it's not as frequent. From all the "wrong-thinkers" who you defended in the moderators corner we appreciate it :up:
 

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Whaaa?!?!?! You're doing No Contact on us?? :crackup:

Jokes aside, thank you for your contributions AM. Best of luck to you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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