"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm leaving SoSuave

Atom Smasher

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Hey Guys,

It's time for me to travel to other dimensions, and just don't feel right about leaving SS without saying goodbye.

The reason I'm leaving is that I want to get away from the subject matter for a while, to utilize what I've learned and retool myself personally and also retool my businesses.

One of businesses involves both art and science, and in the world of art it's important to step away completely from a piece in order to gain perspective. You come back to it with a new vision and with a certainty as to the next required steps.

So it is with life as art. In the places where you need to dig deep in order to create a life that is going to be one's masterpiece, at least for me it's necessary to step back from the core components to refresh one's perspective. A man develops an inner knowing when it's time.

Perhaps I'll be gone forever, perhaps for a week. I have no idea. But like I said, I didn't want to make a big deal of my leaving yet it just doesn't sit right with me to simply disappear without giving my friends here the respect of explaining my disappearance.

All the best,
Atom Smasher
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SgtSplacker

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Here, take this and keep it with you wherever you go. If you ever need help hold it close to your heart and say my name thrice. "SgtSplacker" and I will be there for you... best wishes.
 

badboyjmm

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Thanks for your contributions to this forum
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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soulforge

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Good luck atom... got some great advice off you in the past... thanx man
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Nice one mate. All power to you. Stop by sometimes and say hi.

This is a favorite quotation of mine, which seems relevant. All the best.

'I am not yet so lost in lexicography, as to forget that words are the daughters of the Earth, and that things are the sons of heaven. Language is the only instrument of science, and words are but the signs of ideas: I wish, however, that the instruments might be less apt to decay and that signs might be permanent, like the things that they denote' - Samuel Johnson
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Chamber36

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good luck in your endeavours
 

Who Dares Win

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If you let us know how much is the internet bill in the retirement castle we will collect the cash for you to stay with us!

Ok seriously, sad that you leave Atom, you surely are one of the posters which provides quality to this board, good luck with your new plans and hope to see you back here.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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GS750

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All the best brother. Stop in and say hi once in a while.
 

Eph

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I wasn't here when Pook left, but I'm glad I can say farewell to one of the greats of SS. I'd say good luck with everything, but I'm sure you'll find a way to make success happen.
 

JohnChops

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Atom Smasher said:
Hey Guys,

It's time for me to travel to other dimensions, and just don't feel right about leaving SS without saying goodbye.

The reason I'm leaving is that I want to get away from the subject matter for a while, to utilize what I've learned and retool myself personally and also retool my businesses.

One of businesses involves both art and science, and in the world of art it's important to step away completely from a piece in order to gain perspective. You come back to it with a new vision and with a certainty as to the next required steps.

So it is with life as art. In the places where you need to dig deep in order to create a life that is going to be one's masterpiece, at least for me it's necessary to step back from the core components to refresh one's perspective. A man develops an inner knowing when it's time.

Perhaps I'll be gone forever, perhaps for a week. I have no idea. But like I said, I didn't want to make a big deal of my leaving yet it just doesn't sit right with me to simply disappear without giving my friends here the respect of explaining my disappearance.

All the best,
Atom Smasher

Hey Uncle Atom, you will be missed. I also have to say thanks for helping me out when I first came here, you were a huge part in my success in life thus far. I wish you the best and hope all goes well!:yes:
 

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Well this sucks. The only legitimate right thinking and socially aware moderator SS actually has besides Rollo and Des who are both few and far between these days and you're leaving.

Goodluck mate, honestly hope you're back post-haste, even if it's not as frequent. From all the "wrong-thinkers" who you defended in the moderators corner we appreciate it :up:
 

Between_The_Lines

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Whaaa?!?!?! You're doing No Contact on us?? :crackup:

Jokes aside, thank you for your contributions AM. Best of luck to you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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