"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm keen on you - she says

ka_mate

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Background info: I've gone on two dates with this girl and we've made out. After our second date she went on holidays for a week and she texted me during this time and I responded but then didn't reply to her next message. She's been back in town for a couple of days and we haven't spoken. (I was going to wait a few days after she got back to ask her out to keep her guessing). I'm not super keen on her but just waiting to see how things go with her

So today she texts me saying "Hey I really like you, but are you keen on me? Because if you're not that's fine, just let me know :)" at about 8pm. Now the problem we all face with texts is that we have no idea of the tone with which they are sent. She's realitively inexperienced with dating (we're both 17 years old) and this makes me think there is the possibility that she is being honest. Although, she does have an outgoing friend and it is possible that one of her friends has taken her phone and sent the message joke like (girls do this all the time).

My question is, how should I respond?

Obviously, saying I'm interested in you is out of the question. No challenge/mystery.

Should I
1. Assume that it's her friend texting and say "Long time no see Katie (her friends name) how's it going"
2. Not text back tonight, (then what do I do tomorrow)
3. text her back at some stage saying something like "Hmm...I'm undecided you haven't won my affection yet. You'll need to put a good performance in on the third date" leave it at that then call her 3 days later and organise a date.
4. Any other option you reckon would be better
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NorwegianDJ

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Dude. OF COURSE SHE LIKES YOU
Why wouldnt she like you????
Seriously. Why would you exclude that fact?

Tell her you should go out alone. You may also tell her you're keen. However, not both in the same text. Go with "Let's go on a date on (day), (place) at (time)" Something along those lines.
 

LearningSlowly

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Yeah she likes you. Don't overthink it.

I'd say:
"Yeah :) I definitely want to get to know you better"
and LEAVE IT. She may text back, whatever. Give it some time, an hour maybe, then "I'm busy, I'll have to text you later, but let's go out (place, day, time)."

The thing you did right so far, that drew this text, was not overtexting her. Keep doing that. The fact that you aren't especially "keen" (lol) on her helps.
 
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