"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm keen on you - she says

ka_mate

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Background info: I've gone on two dates with this girl and we've made out. After our second date she went on holidays for a week and she texted me during this time and I responded but then didn't reply to her next message. She's been back in town for a couple of days and we haven't spoken. (I was going to wait a few days after she got back to ask her out to keep her guessing). I'm not super keen on her but just waiting to see how things go with her

So today she texts me saying "Hey I really like you, but are you keen on me? Because if you're not that's fine, just let me know :)" at about 8pm. Now the problem we all face with texts is that we have no idea of the tone with which they are sent. She's realitively inexperienced with dating (we're both 17 years old) and this makes me think there is the possibility that she is being honest. Although, she does have an outgoing friend and it is possible that one of her friends has taken her phone and sent the message joke like (girls do this all the time).

My question is, how should I respond?

Obviously, saying I'm interested in you is out of the question. No challenge/mystery.

Should I
1. Assume that it's her friend texting and say "Long time no see Katie (her friends name) how's it going"
2. Not text back tonight, (then what do I do tomorrow)
3. text her back at some stage saying something like "Hmm...I'm undecided you haven't won my affection yet. You'll need to put a good performance in on the third date" leave it at that then call her 3 days later and organise a date.
4. Any other option you reckon would be better
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NorwegianDJ

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Dude. OF COURSE SHE LIKES YOU
Why wouldnt she like you????
Seriously. Why would you exclude that fact?

Tell her you should go out alone. You may also tell her you're keen. However, not both in the same text. Go with "Let's go on a date on (day), (place) at (time)" Something along those lines.
 

LearningSlowly

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Yeah she likes you. Don't overthink it.

I'd say:
"Yeah :) I definitely want to get to know you better"
and LEAVE IT. She may text back, whatever. Give it some time, an hour maybe, then "I'm busy, I'll have to text you later, but let's go out (place, day, time)."

The thing you did right so far, that drew this text, was not overtexting her. Keep doing that. The fact that you aren't especially "keen" (lol) on her helps.
 
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