"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm keen on you - she says

ka_mate

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Background info: I've gone on two dates with this girl and we've made out. After our second date she went on holidays for a week and she texted me during this time and I responded but then didn't reply to her next message. She's been back in town for a couple of days and we haven't spoken. (I was going to wait a few days after she got back to ask her out to keep her guessing). I'm not super keen on her but just waiting to see how things go with her

So today she texts me saying "Hey I really like you, but are you keen on me? Because if you're not that's fine, just let me know :)" at about 8pm. Now the problem we all face with texts is that we have no idea of the tone with which they are sent. She's realitively inexperienced with dating (we're both 17 years old) and this makes me think there is the possibility that she is being honest. Although, she does have an outgoing friend and it is possible that one of her friends has taken her phone and sent the message joke like (girls do this all the time).

My question is, how should I respond?

Obviously, saying I'm interested in you is out of the question. No challenge/mystery.

Should I
1. Assume that it's her friend texting and say "Long time no see Katie (her friends name) how's it going"
2. Not text back tonight, (then what do I do tomorrow)
3. text her back at some stage saying something like "Hmm...I'm undecided you haven't won my affection yet. You'll need to put a good performance in on the third date" leave it at that then call her 3 days later and organise a date.
4. Any other option you reckon would be better
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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NorwegianDJ

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Dude. OF COURSE SHE LIKES YOU
Why wouldnt she like you????
Seriously. Why would you exclude that fact?

Tell her you should go out alone. You may also tell her you're keen. However, not both in the same text. Go with "Let's go on a date on (day), (place) at (time)" Something along those lines.
 

LearningSlowly

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Yeah she likes you. Don't overthink it.

I'd say:
"Yeah :) I definitely want to get to know you better"
and LEAVE IT. She may text back, whatever. Give it some time, an hour maybe, then "I'm busy, I'll have to text you later, but let's go out (place, day, time)."

The thing you did right so far, that drew this text, was not overtexting her. Keep doing that. The fact that you aren't especially "keen" (lol) on her helps.
 
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