Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm keen on you - she says

ka_mate

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Background info: I've gone on two dates with this girl and we've made out. After our second date she went on holidays for a week and she texted me during this time and I responded but then didn't reply to her next message. She's been back in town for a couple of days and we haven't spoken. (I was going to wait a few days after she got back to ask her out to keep her guessing). I'm not super keen on her but just waiting to see how things go with her

So today she texts me saying "Hey I really like you, but are you keen on me? Because if you're not that's fine, just let me know :)" at about 8pm. Now the problem we all face with texts is that we have no idea of the tone with which they are sent. She's realitively inexperienced with dating (we're both 17 years old) and this makes me think there is the possibility that she is being honest. Although, she does have an outgoing friend and it is possible that one of her friends has taken her phone and sent the message joke like (girls do this all the time).

My question is, how should I respond?

Obviously, saying I'm interested in you is out of the question. No challenge/mystery.

Should I
1. Assume that it's her friend texting and say "Long time no see Katie (her friends name) how's it going"
2. Not text back tonight, (then what do I do tomorrow)
3. text her back at some stage saying something like "Hmm...I'm undecided you haven't won my affection yet. You'll need to put a good performance in on the third date" leave it at that then call her 3 days later and organise a date.
4. Any other option you reckon would be better
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NorwegianDJ

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Dude. OF COURSE SHE LIKES YOU
Why wouldnt she like you????
Seriously. Why would you exclude that fact?

Tell her you should go out alone. You may also tell her you're keen. However, not both in the same text. Go with "Let's go on a date on (day), (place) at (time)" Something along those lines.
 

LearningSlowly

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Yeah she likes you. Don't overthink it.

I'd say:
"Yeah :) I definitely want to get to know you better"
and LEAVE IT. She may text back, whatever. Give it some time, an hour maybe, then "I'm busy, I'll have to text you later, but let's go out (place, day, time)."

The thing you did right so far, that drew this text, was not overtexting her. Keep doing that. The fact that you aren't especially "keen" (lol) on her helps.
 
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