Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm intrested in my co worker ?

taiyuu_otoko

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I've already established in my OP that have little, if any, work related interaction--Plus, I'll be leaving the company in a year or so.
Not to question your intention, just consider ALL outcomes. What if you flat out ask him out, he says no, and then talks about you negatively behind your back? Maybe not likely but an uncomfortable situation to suffer through for a year.

It would suck to be known as the "girl who chases dudes at work" for a year. You'll never know if you're going to be needing anybody there as a future reference.

Which is why I suggested to make it only "half obvious" you are asking him so you can measure his reaction, and proceed accordingly.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PuffyPonny

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UPDATE

So I finally saw him today after 28 days due of me taking time off work after an unexpected injury .
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The first thing he said was "hey where have you been?"its nice to see you".Then I proceeded to explain to him the reasons why I was absent. Then he said that" It was good to see me back".We chatted briefly and I asked him if he has been at the gym lately and he said he hasn't been in 2 months because of other obligations,then I told him that he still looks great ...he didn't get to answer my compliment because other co workers showed to ask me about work related issued.At that point he had to go back to his department.


I was just wondering because some of my co workers were indifferent about absence ..they didn't really question me about it.He even said"you haven't been around for almost a month now huh?Not to mention that we work in different departments and we run into each other few times a week.We work in a big building.The fact that he noticed my absence raised my suspicion
What do you guys think..
 

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Be direct. You're the woman, so he'll have to advance and make moves on you. But I still think if you're interested in him, you should show him. Flirt with him, make eye contact, get his number, maybe hang out with him after work. Do things to show that you're interested in him; womanly things that will start making him think "Hmm, I think she likes me". It's like fishing. You're giving him the bait. If he doesn't like you, he won't take it. If he does, he'll take the bait.

If you're leaving soon and you two hardly work/see each other in the work place, I think it's fine if you're seeing him. If something unfortunate were to happen you'd be leaving anyways. Plus, you hardly see him, right?

Like Tictac said, ask him on that coffee date.
I had a good time reading this in Muhammad Ali's voice.
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BetterCallSaul

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ask him out already, sheesh!
No kidding.

I'm also of the same opinion as Asmodeus. Lots of women are like

"I looked in his general direction for a solid 2 seconds and he didn't even ask me out! He must be gay."
 
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