"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm in some hot water here..

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So on new year's eve, I was drinking a bit. Me and my friend (Let's call her Julie) were hanging out just chatting at a party. I've known this girl since I was 15 and have always sorta had sort of a crush on her. She's sort of been seeing my friend (Let's call him Stan), and he hasn't put forth any commitment between them even though she wants to be his girlfriend. Stan wasn't there that night and Julie was extremely flirty with me. Giving me kisses on the cheek and stuff, I just tried to play it stupid and act oblivious to it since I'm good friends with Stan.

Later that night I wound up having my arm around here and pulling flirty gestures on her, just cause I really wanted to and I was sort of intoxicated past the point of having self control. She really seemed into it which was cool, but I just don't wanna piss my good friend off. I don't think she told him about it yet.

Later this week, Stan and I were hanging out and crashed at my place after partying a little bit. He was telling me about Julie and how he's not really into her and is in love with another girl. He also called this girl on the phone that night and talked to her for a good 20 minutes.

So I don't know what I should do here.. Should I just go for Julie? Or talk to Stan about it first? She's been sending me text messages which seem to imply she's interested. Just not sure how to go about pursuing the situation or if I should just completely back off. Any thoughts?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't understand whats the problem. Seems like you have class torwads your friends. Which is good. If he said his not in too her. Well, go for it! What your waiting for! My friends use to say ant no fun if the homeys can't have none.. Your friend is not steady with her...
 
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You don't talk to girls your friends talk to. That's just ****ed up unless she means nothing to him..
 
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Pierce said:
You don't talk to girls your friends talk to. That's just ****ed up unless she means nothing to him..
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I've known her way longer than him and they're not in a relationship. Read the thread
 
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she may be using you to get his attention, knowing you are his best friend.
why would she want you now? you've known her since 15, she hasnt been interested until stan isnt giving her attention?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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chiyeung said:
she may be using you to get his attention, knowing you are his best friend.
why would she want you now? you've known her since 15, she hasnt been interested until stan isnt giving her attention?
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This is true, but I do not believe he will even go for her if this happens. Even if it did happen, I'm not looking for a relationship or to fall in love, just a casual hook up would be cool with me. I also display much more confidence than him, he's always acting timid and quiet around her etc.
 
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i would be careful.

girls can be manipulative, and she'll be no different despite you knowing her so long.

to answer your question, i would talk to your friend first.
 
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