I'm in HS and i'm considered the jerk with ****y and funny, but everyone feels like they can walk all over me and treat me hella bad especially the ladies. I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
In other words, you're only a self-imposed jerk. Labels, nicknames, and reputation is all created by the people around you.I'm in HS and i'm considered the jerk with ****y and funny,
Are you sure you didn't want to write the word "joke" instead of "jerk"?but everyone feels like they can walk all over me and treat me hella bad especially the ladies.
Respect is earned, not commanded. Also, people have difficulty changing their opinions of people they know well. Getting them to change their mind about who and what you are is an almost impossible task. But don't worry, it's only high school. Most of what you're used to when it comes to socializing and popularity goes out the door after you graduate.I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
Couldn't have written it any better myself!Desdinova said:In other words, you're only a self-imposed jerk. Labels, nicknames, and reputation is all created by the people around you.
Are you sure you didn't want to write the word "joke" instead of "jerk"?
Respect is earned, not commanded. Also, people have difficulty changing their opinions of people they know well. Getting them to change their mind about who and what you are is an almost impossible task. But don't worry, it's only high school. Most of what you're used to when it comes to socializing and popularity goes out the door after you graduate.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What?? Did you say something??Rint said:...I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That is because you are a fvcking b*tch.Rint said:I'm in HS and i'm considered the jerk with ****y and funny, but everyone feels like they can walk all over me and treat me hella bad especially the ladies. I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
Yeah I'm sure.Rint said:Yea dude i'm 15 so i dont think chicks are cool with ****ing yet.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.