I'm in HS and i'm considered the jerk with ****y and funny, but everyone feels like they can walk all over me and treat me hella bad especially the ladies. I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
In other words, you're only a self-imposed jerk. Labels, nicknames, and reputation is all created by the people around you.I'm in HS and i'm considered the jerk with ****y and funny,
Are you sure you didn't want to write the word "joke" instead of "jerk"?but everyone feels like they can walk all over me and treat me hella bad especially the ladies.
Respect is earned, not commanded. Also, people have difficulty changing their opinions of people they know well. Getting them to change their mind about who and what you are is an almost impossible task. But don't worry, it's only high school. Most of what you're used to when it comes to socializing and popularity goes out the door after you graduate.I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
Couldn't have written it any better myself!Desdinova said:In other words, you're only a self-imposed jerk. Labels, nicknames, and reputation is all created by the people around you.
Are you sure you didn't want to write the word "joke" instead of "jerk"?
Respect is earned, not commanded. Also, people have difficulty changing their opinions of people they know well. Getting them to change their mind about who and what you are is an almost impossible task. But don't worry, it's only high school. Most of what you're used to when it comes to socializing and popularity goes out the door after you graduate.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
What?? Did you say something??Rint said:...I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That is because you are a fvcking b*tch.Rint said:I'm in HS and i'm considered the jerk with ****y and funny, but everyone feels like they can walk all over me and treat me hella bad especially the ladies. I'm so sick of the lack of respect and no one listening to me. HELP!!
Yeah I'm sure.Rint said:Yea dude i'm 15 so i dont think chicks are cool with ****ing yet.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.