Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hahahahaha amazing.zekko said:I already gave my opinion on this, but I'm actually kind of disappointed you're not going. I would have loved to have gotten a field report on how this went lol. Or been a fly on the wall or something.
It would almost be fun to go there and totally self amuse. Like eat six onions before you go and pass horrid gas through the whole mealOr bring her flowers and a card and read poetry to her, anything weird.
Except that we all know that those guys will show up, will kiss her ass all night (though not literally, they'll get no action) and will probably fight over the bill to look like some big man provider. She'll be happy with her huge inflated ego and will either go off to find some random guy to fvck or go back home to her vibrator. That's my guess on how her night'll go. The only unsure thing is how will the OP standing her up affect her? Will she even care? Only time will tell.Zarky said:I just wouldn't answer her call, don't show up to the "dinner," then a day or two later text her or whatever and say sorry you couldn't make it but you're sure it was a blast and you're hoping she'll tell you all about it. Don't tell her what you did, just say "something came up."
I would definitely FLAKE, and by flake I mean stand her up with no warning and no explanation. With any luck both the other dudes will stand her up too.. now that would be funny.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Can't agree with this enough.DJDamage said:Don't do it man! flake on the manipulative b1tch and go on a date with another girl.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dddAi8FF3F4
That may work some of the times, other times the guys will try to freeze you or undermine you especially if they are trying to tag some ass and they see you as AMOG. After all you are there to pick up girls not guys so if you aren't interested in the girl anymore then at this point you should plan about making your exit.wait_out said:Somewhat off-topic, but if you ever accidentally find yourself in a situation like this, it can still be fun if you just spend your time chatting with the guys and forget about the girl.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Don't go simple as that. Guys on here keep forgetting a simple yet golden rule of seduction which is "in order to seduce you have to isolate!"Kal0051 said:Kind of a off topic but how would you guys react if some chick invited you out to meet up with some girls she knows?
he already went, here's his updateblueline said:Jesus Christ, man, don't do it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.