"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im cracking fellas

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i can feel the groveling brewing inside
 
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just sent her a text

damn it
 
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georgie,

I had a BPD/HPD ex and I cracked. It will eat you alive. It took away a couple of prime years from my life. It can and will ruin you. To think of it as an addiciton and contact is falling off of the wagon.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what is spinning plates?
 
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samspade said:
Don't beat yourself up - what's done is done. You have to resolve not to do it again, though.

Spinning plates is the practice of having more than one woman interested in you at any given time.* It doesn't mean they all have to be sleeping with you. It means you should be cultivating, at any stage, romantic interest from more than one woman. This helps to keep you from disproportionately dwelling on any one woman. It will help you mature emotionally so you can deal with different women. It will help you qualify and select based on what YOU want. And it helps stave off Oneitis, which is what you have. You are consumed by one woman at the expense of your mental well-being and your emotional, personal, and sexual satisfaction.

*Think of each woman as a "plate" that you must keep spinning on the table. You can't possibly pay attention to all plates at all times. When one stops, it's asking for your attention and you are granting it. Get the idea?
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yes, since i settled down with this oneitis ive lost desire to purse or go out, dunno were the F to start
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i have to see her saturday for a function for a few hours, then i can begin ...again..this time im planning a vacation for monday-friday, im willing to go anywere in the usa
 
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Just learn from your mistakes, Georgie. This won't be the last time you crack, but everytime you crack, you will become a little stronger.
 
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You're a fuvking puvsy. You sent her a text? haha How about stop being a girl and moving on? No wonder she left you. You are weak.

That is tough love, keep reading that, get angry, start being a man.
 
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samspade said:
Don't beat yourself up - what's done is done. You have to resolve not to do it again, though.

Spinning plates is the practice of having more than one woman interested in you at any given time.* It doesn't mean they all have to be sleeping with you. It means you should be cultivating, at any stage, romantic interest from more than one woman. This helps to keep you from disproportionately dwelling on any one woman. It will help you mature emotionally so you can deal with different women. It will help you qualify and select based on what YOU want. And it helps stave off Oneitis, which is what you have. You are consumed by one woman at the expense of your mental well-being and your emotional, personal, and sexual satisfaction.

*Think of each woman as a "plate" that you must keep spinning on the table. You can't possibly pay attention to all plates at all times. When one stops, it's asking for your attention and you are granting it. Get the idea?
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Listen to him georgie24. Trust me, with enough time the scales will fall from your eyes and you'll see the light. You are overrating this girl.

Formulate a plan that will lead to daily improvement intellectually (read more), socially, spiritually and physically (commit to rigorous fitness program).

Good luck.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Go ahead and crack, georgie. That may be your only hope. From the looks of your posts, you've been posting this pathetic garbage since 2003, d*mn near a decade ago. You haven't learned sh*t. You don't listen to the excellent advice given to you.

So do us all a favor and crack. Lose your password to this site too.
 
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speed dawg said:
Go ahead and crack, georgie. That may be your only hope. From the looks of your posts, you've been posting this pathetic garbage since 2003, d*mn near a decade ago. You haven't learned sh*t. You don't listen to the excellent advice given to you.

So do us all a favor and crack. Lose your password to this site too.
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i have flaws, i will continue pursuit of learning and applying my new tools constantly, it was because help of this sight i landed this one, didnt realize how severe she was ill after we lost our kids and meds came into picture..

ps if you were on fire i wouldnt bother pissing on you:)
 
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why were your parents talking you out of the relationship?
 
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