You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
http://catmacros.files.wordpress.com/2009/10/emo.jpggeorgie24 said:just sent her a text
damn it
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It haPPENS to the best of us, the other day i contacted a "super-grenade" working 60 hours a week, and having a high drive will do that too yousquirrels said:
samspade said:Don't beat yourself up - what's done is done. You have to resolve not to do it again, though.
Spinning plates is the practice of having more than one woman interested in you at any given time.* It doesn't mean they all have to be sleeping with you. It means you should be cultivating, at any stage, romantic interest from more than one woman. This helps to keep you from disproportionately dwelling on any one woman. It will help you mature emotionally so you can deal with different women. It will help you qualify and select based on what YOU want. And it helps stave off Oneitis, which is what you have. You are consumed by one woman at the expense of your mental well-being and your emotional, personal, and sexual satisfaction.
*Think of each woman as a "plate" that you must keep spinning on the table. You can't possibly pay attention to all plates at all times. When one stops, it's asking for your attention and you are granting it. Get the idea?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Listen to him georgie24. Trust me, with enough time the scales will fall from your eyes and you'll see the light. You are overrating this girl.samspade said:Don't beat yourself up - what's done is done. You have to resolve not to do it again, though.
Spinning plates is the practice of having more than one woman interested in you at any given time.* It doesn't mean they all have to be sleeping with you. It means you should be cultivating, at any stage, romantic interest from more than one woman. This helps to keep you from disproportionately dwelling on any one woman. It will help you mature emotionally so you can deal with different women. It will help you qualify and select based on what YOU want. And it helps stave off Oneitis, which is what you have. You are consumed by one woman at the expense of your mental well-being and your emotional, personal, and sexual satisfaction.
*Think of each woman as a "plate" that you must keep spinning on the table. You can't possibly pay attention to all plates at all times. When one stops, it's asking for your attention and you are granting it. Get the idea?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
speed dawg said:Go ahead and crack, georgie. That may be your only hope. From the looks of your posts, you've been posting this pathetic garbage since 2003, d*mn near a decade ago. You haven't learned sh*t. You don't listen to the excellent advice given to you.
So do us all a favor and crack. Lose your password to this site too.
i read these everyday, then write threm piece of paper the sections im weakest at then toss in trash can:rockon:Rollo Tomassi said: