"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm constantly used as a trophy!
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Blue Phoenix
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And what about hot girls with "ugly" BF's?
However, I always try to humble myself and play down my qualities to make them feel more comfortable. Then before I realise what's happening, there's a role reversal. I've humbled myself too much and I'm putting her on the pedestal.
Lesson: I need to stay on the damn pedestal!
jariel, that sounds interesting. I wonder if girls treat all good looking guys the same?Originally posted by Jariel
I've started to see another pattern lately. It's fair to say i have a lot going for me, but I am a very modest guy. Whenever I meet a girl who is interested, it nearly always starts with them placing me on a pedestal, supplicating to me and apologising for the slightest thing.
However, I always try to humble myself and play down my qualities to make them feel more comfortable. Then before I realise what's happening, there's a role reversal. I've humbled myself too much and I'm putting her on the pedestal.
Lesson: I need to stay on the damn pedestal!
They might feel he's a great catch and can easily lose them to any other woman, thus the girl will become AFC around the guy.
I guess in the beginning of any relationship, you need to set the rules or else you'll end up spoiling them like your humbleness has. Then the odds went against you.....interesting post indeed.
MindOverMatter
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*clap*
You have figured out something that has never occured to me. Much like you've ive made the exact same error, yet never realized it. now that I read it, it's so simple, yet it all makes sense.
lesson learned - if someone puts you on a pedestal, stay there, so simple, so smart
thanks a million.
edit - this post should be archived imo.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I-am-someone
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It's not always that easy to stay on the damn pedestal though