"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm back! So, how do you handle multiple women with facts for each?

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I'm back as in its recently clicked in me how to meet women again. I was on a roll at various times before my marriage. Most specifically 2010-2012 when I started getting into the local pickup community. I eventually got into a ltr+marriage and zero social life the whole time. Fast forward divorced a year ago and just now it clicked again exactly what approach worked for me and up until very recently I had zero female intrest. Now, I need to start remembering certain things about each women and get it straight. It's especially hard to remember certain facts via text since it's impersonal. How do you handle that?

I understand now more the importance of the connection when meeting women. Before it was all physical, but still needed the correct approach. Now I feel I will be even more successful since due to work experiences and leadership skill sets I've gained a better understanding of gaining that human connection to gain compliance.

But no, seriously.

How do you keep track of various women and what you'd need to remember?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Take notes, literally. I use the contact cards on my phone to record important information.
 

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I don't. I just remember. When you take an actual interest in people you tend to remember things.
 

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Hi Borknager,
Like Pierce I keep a record,and yes it's a small note book with a black cover....In it I record their salient details....During Covid when I went through a dry spell,it came in useful....I use the same nickname for them all,that way you are never at a loss on meeting them,and you never accidentally address another familiar with their name.
 
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Hi Borknager,
Like Pierce I keep a record,and yes it's a small note book with a black cover....In it I record their salient details....During Covid when I went through a dry spell,it came in useful....I use the same nickname for them all,that way you are never at a loss on meeting them,and you never accidentally address another familiar with their name.
maybe I missed something aren’t you in your late 70s? And married? If you’re still spinning plates successfully at your age being married, my headzhat is off to you bro you’re a legend.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi Pierce,
Nice to hear from you....No,not been married for 20+years....The secret to spinning plates is to have a steady reliable centrepiece but never let her get her feet under your table....All this is secondary to maintaining Health and Fitness and here it must be said our own Forum provides a font of knowledge....Though I have no real need to indulge in this Dalliance,the insecurity left after two broken marriages,means I must always have options ...Quite surprisingly this mental attitude actually reinforces my principal relationship.
 

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Hi Amsterdam,
Kitje huh?....We would use Kitty Cat or dread the thought,begins with P.....
Me?I use Possum.....Great to see you still have all your smarts,I hid my own Easter Eggs this year,still lookin LOL.
 
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Hi Amsterdam,
As Kipling Says....
"I've taken my fun where I've found it,
An' now I must pay for my fun,
For the more you 'ave known o' the others
The less will you settle to one;"
And his conclusion,"Both Colonels wife and Nancy O'Grady are Sisters under the Skin"!
 

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You only have to remember the basics like her birthday, where the live and work, name, etc. The other details you can mess up. In fact, assigning the wrong information to girls actually helps you when single. It increases your value (she knows you have other hves).
 
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