"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm back! So, how do you handle multiple women with facts for each?

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I'm back as in its recently clicked in me how to meet women again. I was on a roll at various times before my marriage. Most specifically 2010-2012 when I started getting into the local pickup community. I eventually got into a ltr+marriage and zero social life the whole time. Fast forward divorced a year ago and just now it clicked again exactly what approach worked for me and up until very recently I had zero female intrest. Now, I need to start remembering certain things about each women and get it straight. It's especially hard to remember certain facts via text since it's impersonal. How do you handle that?

I understand now more the importance of the connection when meeting women. Before it was all physical, but still needed the correct approach. Now I feel I will be even more successful since due to work experiences and leadership skill sets I've gained a better understanding of gaining that human connection to gain compliance.

But no, seriously.

How do you keep track of various women and what you'd need to remember?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Take notes, literally. I use the contact cards on my phone to record important information.
 

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I don't. I just remember. When you take an actual interest in people you tend to remember things.
 

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Hi Borknager,
Like Pierce I keep a record,and yes it's a small note book with a black cover....In it I record their salient details....During Covid when I went through a dry spell,it came in useful....I use the same nickname for them all,that way you are never at a loss on meeting them,and you never accidentally address another familiar with their name.
 
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Hi Borknager,
Like Pierce I keep a record,and yes it's a small note book with a black cover....In it I record their salient details....During Covid when I went through a dry spell,it came in useful....I use the same nickname for them all,that way you are never at a loss on meeting them,and you never accidentally address another familiar with their name.
maybe I missed something aren’t you in your late 70s? And married? If you’re still spinning plates successfully at your age being married, my headzhat is off to you bro you’re a legend.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hi Pierce,
Nice to hear from you....No,not been married for 20+years....The secret to spinning plates is to have a steady reliable centrepiece but never let her get her feet under your table....All this is secondary to maintaining Health and Fitness and here it must be said our own Forum provides a font of knowledge....Though I have no real need to indulge in this Dalliance,the insecurity left after two broken marriages,means I must always have options ...Quite surprisingly this mental attitude actually reinforces my principal relationship.
 

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Hi Amsterdam,
Kitje huh?....We would use Kitty Cat or dread the thought,begins with P.....
Me?I use Possum.....Great to see you still have all your smarts,I hid my own Easter Eggs this year,still lookin LOL.
 
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Hi Amsterdam,
As Kipling Says....
"I've taken my fun where I've found it,
An' now I must pay for my fun,
For the more you 'ave known o' the others
The less will you settle to one;"
And his conclusion,"Both Colonels wife and Nancy O'Grady are Sisters under the Skin"!
 

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You only have to remember the basics like her birthday, where the live and work, name, etc. The other details you can mess up. In fact, assigning the wrong information to girls actually helps you when single. It increases your value (she knows you have other hves).
 
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