"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Foe

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Haha well sort of, had my first date since my LTR ended two weeks ago. She drove me home this morning, boom! Feels like the spell has lifted somewhat which is massive relief.

She happens to work right next to where I live so that's convenient, question is do I message her or wait.

I wanna say "last night was incredible" but it feels kinda simpy.....Maybe just wait?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Definitely wait a few days. Maybe even wait until the holiday weekend is over. Sunday night at a minimum.

If "boom" meant you fuccked her vag, then that is good to get laid only two weeks after an LTR ended. Better than most.
 

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Haha well sort of, had my first date since my LTR ended two weeks ago. She drove me home this morning, boom! Feels like the spell has lifted somewhat which is massive relief.

She happens to work right next to where I live so that's convenient, question is do I message her or wait.

I wanna say "last night was incredible" but it feels kinda simpy.....Maybe just wait?
let her contact you. fvck her again. find something or someone else to do in the mean time.
 

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She’s a bit close to home if it all goes pear shaped lol good for you though. Onwards & upwards. Give it a few days. She will probably message you. Good luck..!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nah, if you sealed the deal, texting the following day is fine (but keep convo text modest).

The "two day" rule is too well known these days and has become a cliché. If you hadn't done the deed, then yeah...wait 2 days to a week, but since you sealed it, waiting too long could potentially backfire (depends on the girl).
 

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Nah, if you sealed the deal, texting the following day is fine (but keep convo text modest).

The "two day" rule is too well known these days and has become a cliché. If you hadn't done the deed, then yeah...wait 2 days to a week, but since you sealed it, waiting too long could potentially backfire (depends on the girl).
Find myself agreeing with a lot of BWV posts. Agreed. A woman gave you her body (frankly its one of their only assets) least you can do is send a text. I usually send a quick "I had a good time with you last night" the next day at some point if you have interest. Some women get ghosted after because the dude has remorse and waiting too long will put you in that camp.
 

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I think it's better to wait for them to message first, to gauge their interest level.

You have to ask them out, setup logistics, (most likely) pickup the tab, give them a good experience while being charming, etc, the least they can do is send a "thanks I had a nice time" text. Even passive/traditional girls will do this.

However, if you banged, some insecure women might interpret your lack of texting back as a sign you were just looking to pump and dump...still, if she can't even be bothered to send a simple thank you text, she probably lost interest at some point regardless, and you'll just save yourself the trouble.
 

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In my mind, she has a few dudes she’s still in open discussions with, I’d say text and say something along the lines of “hey it was great to hang out last night”. This way she won’t feel conflicted or a cumdumpster and it clears the roster for your next meat (typo intended). Now if she’s a plate you don’t care, but given your enthusiasm you want to keep that around.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Find myself agreeing with a lot of BWV posts. Agreed. A woman gave you her body (frankly its one of their only assets) least you can do is send a text. I usually send a quick "I had a good time with you last night" the next day at some point if you have interest. Some women get ghosted after because the dude has remorse and waiting too long will put you in that camp.
Also good for avoiding a false rape accusation.
 

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So I waited two days texted to setup next date on saturday, got what I thought was a enthusiastic response and a let's do something next week...... now it's Tuesday... nothing.....

Do I text again or keep waiting?
 

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Haha well sort of, had my first date since my LTR ended two weeks ago. She drove me home this morning, boom! Feels like the spell has lifted somewhat which is massive relief.

She happens to work right next to where I live so that's convenient, question is do I message her or wait.

I wanna say "last night was incredible" but it feels kinda simpy.....Maybe just wait?
Let her message you first, then respond.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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